My H sms'd me this morning 'I guess you are happier now I am really missing you I will always love you'<p>This upset me because he has said he doesn't want to be more than friends and I have told him I can't offer him friendship only.<p>Now I get another sms 'i guess no reply means don't feel the same'.<p>I wonder really if this man knows how much these messages have affected me. My head is throbbing and I just don't know how much more I can take. Yesterday his cousin and uncle came to fetch the car he had sold to them. They must have said I looked happy or something like that for him to suddenly send me these sms. I have closed my heart to him and I want to start my life again and just look upon the relationship as history, but now the messages. It is so confusing for me. My heart is giving these strange flutterings. I really don't know how to react to this. So far I have ignored the sms's.<p>Any advice?<p>Pantha
(Divorced 19/11/2001)

I would reply honestly. Say something like,
"You know how I feel about you as I have told you numerous times throughout this entire ordeal and my feelings for you have not changed. But, you have made yourself quite clear by your actions and now when you send me mixed messages like this it is confusing for me. I have to go on with my life, pick up the pieces and look for brighter days ahead. This is what I am doing. I wish you the very best."
You can probably say it much better since it will be from your heart, but that is the gist of the message I would send. Let him know he is confusing you and the decisions HE MADE are the reason you are where you are.
Good Luck,
M

Thanks Wiffle <p>I like your response. To tell him that is over and it was the choice that he made. So far I haven't replied and thats all I can do for now. I guess if he had email address I would mail him, but I'd rather not phone him. <p>thanks
Pantha