ok h moved back in w ow.says him coming back was part of his plan.to prove to family that it wouldn't work and that he did not want to be with me.he didn't even stop to consider how it would affect our 6 yr old.<p>he left a wk ago but when he did his clothes stayed behind b/c as he walked out the door to meet ow and tell her his plan he did not take his stuff.i asked that he take it b/c i did not want him back in the house but he did as he pleased.and now his stuff is still there b/c he feels he can only come get it at his convience i told him it be in the hallway b/c i didn't want him in the house. and yestereday afternoon was the first time he came looking for it.(i wasn't home)he had the nerve to call from ow house and ask that i call him back(what a jerk)he is just so free w being there who cares that he walked out on his wife and daughter!!!its like that is my new home call me and let me know its okay to get my stuff. how could someone be so cold.<p>i also told him to stay away from our child bc he has nothing positive to offer her.and when we were separated before he was suppose to have her on the wkends and for a while it worked out but then he starting staying at ow house on fridays when he was suppose to be w child at his mothers house.(since he doesn't have his own place)
he then over the summer started to not come on fridays and not call sometimes show up on sat.when he felt like it or late sunday afternoon one day he came at 5pm on sun.what kind of time is that to spend w your child whom you don't see or speak to all week?<p>he would never call her or stop by during the wk.only shows up for the first day of school,first day of camp and then its my responsibilty to take her to school/camp for the rest of the yr. says he felt bad call from ow house.(yeah right)sometimes when he didnt show up on the wkends. daughter would question if he was coming and i would then have to call their and ask him and he would never answer the phone and just wait for me to leave a message and then return my call. <p>he never paid much attention to what went on in school.just paid the tuition and the rest is on me pta's/homework etc. feels i should keep him abreast as to what is going on.why??<p>its just that he feels everything should be done at his convience and when he gets ready.now says if i don't want him to see child that is fine.he also at one point came up w the idea that i let child sleep on ow's couch on the wkends so that he could be with daughter.<p>why should i even consider making his life any easier than its been.time and time again i have told him i do not want child around other woman and yet his still asked. <p>for months he has just been telling me so many different stories.told ow that he feels like he has 2 separate lives one w daughter and one w her
and that is why he wanted me to give the ok for them to be around each other so he could have one happy life. <p>all along claims he was lying to me.just to keep me content and prove point to family that he didn't love me anymore.has a problem w speaking to people and just goes about things by just being totally messed up. and waits for things to blow up and be ugly.<p>pls post.

I'm sorry to hear of your situation, but you have come to a good place for help. <p>Your H has become a selfish teenager again, which is why he thinks he can walk all over you, why seeing his daughter should be at his convenience, etc. etc. etc. You're going to have to detach from him, stop caring about what he does or doesn't do, and focus on being the stable parent your daughter need. That includes taking care of yourself. If you have access to any counseling, use it. Vent your frustrations here, or in a journal. Hire a baby-sitter and go out for a night, or even just for a couple of hours.<p>Don't bother arguing with him, trying to convince him he's wrong, he's hurting you, your daughter, and himself. You're right, but he's intoxicated. Ever argue with a drunk? It's totally useless. You'll have to find a way to detach and negotiate child support, visitation, etc. coldly, unemotionally. If you can't do it without his getting under your skin, you may need a third party.