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#71296 09/20/99 09:51 AM
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My friend's wife has had fibermyalgia for several years and they have a virtually non-existent sex life (once every 4-6 months). They do have a 3-year old child together and she also works full-time. For any of you who may have this disease, does it really affect your intimacy? He says they don't hug or cuddle because it's too painful for her. If it's too painful for her to be intimate, how can she take care of a toddler & work full time? I don't understand this disease, so it would be helpful to hear from anyone who deals with this on a daily basis. How do you cope with a spouse who has it and a spouse who has to deal with it?

#71297 09/26/99 09:53 PM
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Their lack of sex must be caused by psychological reasons I think. I have a friend who has FM and her and her hubby have a good sex life (as far as I know). She goes thru periods where she cannot work and (then I assume) intamicy is probably physically painful.<BR>But if your friend's wife has FM and works and takes care of a toddler- sounds like she aint too sick to atleast cuddle! (and is using the disease as an excuse?)<BR>good luck!<BR>Jess

#71298 09/27/99 02:32 PM
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As a fibromalgia sufferer I can tell you she can get great releif from medications and pain management that is available today. Yes, I have a great sex life and sure sometimes I have to say my body hurts a little bit more then usual but then we cuddle and its no more usual then saying Im just not in the mood for sex tonight. She can be afraid to get preganant as Im sure this could have been pretty painul for her. But there are a world of support groups for fibromyalgia sufferers. Please let her know nothing quite heels the body like touch!!!!

#71299 09/28/99 03:00 AM
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I agree with other members. You need to make sure that she does have diagnosis of FM. It is not a easy diagnosis. It needs to be seen by an expert and need to be on appropriate medication. It is hard to believe that you can not even cuddle when FM is under control.


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