Well, I've had about 36 hours for it to sink in after she told me she filed. I guess I should start getting my ducks in a row, so to speak. It's time to sever our financial ties. I plan on cancelling our joint credit card accounts, closing our savings/checking accounts and asking my W to start depositing her paychecks into her own account, as will I. We can work out an arrangement on paying our common bills. I also intend on getting the house appraised so we can get it ready to sell.
I don't know, should I be doing this or let her do it since she wants the divorce? Maybe I should wait until I actually get served the papers. Any thoughts??? <p>sad dad

I think you're going to have to do these things together. I don't think it can be left up to her to do all of these financial transactions, especially since your signature or involvement/approval is going to have to be involved at various times.<p>I suppose she should be the one to initiate most of these activities, but as the old saying goes, if you want something done rignt, you gotta do it yourself.<p>I know my stbx would probably neglect to do all of it until the last possible minute, and then it would be my problem. For me, it just made sense to do all of this stuff myself so I knew there weren't any loose ends.<p>I haven't done the house yet, but what I intend to do is refinance (rates are low right now), with the deed and new loan in my name only. So when we divorce, I can just pay her half the equity (if she chooses to receive it) and continue payments myself since I intend to live in the house.