Well, my W informed me tonight that she filed. All I said was OK. We sat around all night talking and watching the World Series and just before she went to bed she tells me this, kind of matter-of-factly. I had a feeling, she was being so nice and talkative.<p>I'm sure OM is still very much in the picture. I'm sure her grounds will be irreconcilable differences. I'm just going to gather everything I know about her relationship with OM and decide on a lawyer. I'll probably follow Steve Harley's advice and counter file on the grounds of adultery and mental cruelty, but I'll take my time responding. I don't have proof that they were sleeping together, but I've got a year long history of cellphone records, voice mails I've heard, phone conversations I've recorded (but I can't use), secret meetings, time spent in a hotel in Florida, etc. I'm willing to let a judge decide. <p>There are probably those of you who thinks that's a mistake, but I need her to face what she's done. It's the only way I can see anything changing. I don't want to drag her through the mud, but if she wants the D, I want the real reason to be known. Also, it may help me in custody proceedings. It shouldn't, but it depends on the judge. I just accept her walking out of this marriage smelling like a rose. Maybe I'm being vindictive, but it's time for her to see the consequences of her actions. I never wanted this. I still don't. <p>sad dad