I need help, lots of help. My husband and I have only been married 10 month's. We've had several fight's mainly due to excess baggage carried over from previous marriages. It was never nothing I ever dreamed we'd wind up splitting up over. But it happened and today I was served with separation papers. I don't want it I want us to go too marroage counseling, but at least up until this point and time he refuses. I have done everything I could possiably think of to stop him from doing this to no avail. I've admitted to everything I had done in the marriage and appologized for it. We both did our share in screwing up this marriage. I have been going to a counselor alone for the last three weeks, he's yet to do anything to try and save us. I done all the crawling, begging, changing, and promises of it being different if he'd just join me in counseling in hopes of him returning home. Everything is alot more complicated then I can include in this post, but please believe me there is nothing that wrong that can't be fixed with some proper kind of help. He just sits back and listens to people who either don't like me, or to people who have no right tell him what to do about us, they are not qualified to do so. Anyhow to try and cut this down to a shorter version, as I said we had fights, but we were alright. We had his home and mine, making all payments on both. Also trying to enlarge my home of which we choose to live in. Bills was letting us get no where this way. So we decided to move his stuff out of his house and rent it out. In the process he wound up hurting his back. We had only been married 3 month'sat this point. Suddenly we were thrown togeather 24 hours a day, 7 days a week basically behind closed doors, for almost 4 month's while he recovered from surgery. We really started getting on one anothers nerves, and both had given up on doing anything to work on finishing the house, or going about trying to get rid of some of the clutter. We wound up haveing one last fight, in which he said he was leaving and I told him to get out. He did we've talked several times, even went out on a date so to speak, and everything went great. We both enjoyed each other very much. One night we even spent the night togeather at his house, that went great also. But then his friends keep getting envolved filling his head with lies and accuations keeping him constantly angry as can be at me, no matter what I do. Now he serves me with papers ! I don't want a divorce, or separation we've been apart now for seven weeks, I want him to come home where he belongs. I sent his lawyer a letter back stating I was'nt agreeing to anything, I did'nt want it and I wanted him to get counseling for his baggage problem, just as I have been doing, and for us both to start marriage counseling. What else should I do to make him believe in me again and not the others he's talking to ???????????????? I've never cheated if that should cross anyone's mind ! Any help at all please !!!!!!!!