tell me how a man married for 6 yrs and dating all along could think he is a changed man?<p>h moved in w ow 3wks after he left home. they were dating for 5 months prior. he had been cheating since we got married on and off. he says he is now faithful to ow b/c he has changed and that is who he wants to be with. meanwhile after 7 months of their relationship he was fooling around with me.he would stay over on the wkends (ow thought he was at his mothers house w our daughter) meanwhile he was sleeping at my house with me.this went on for months.<p>in sept.he came back home (it only lasted 6wks)he claims the reason he came back was to prove to his family that we wouldn't work out.so he was still seeing ow and was lying to both of us at the time.she thought he was staying at his aunt;s house to be closer to our daughter(meanwhile he was home sleeping with me and still spending to w her)<p>he is now living w ow again and she knows the whole story i told her.he says their love is so strong that is why they were able to over come this.<p>i would just like to know how is he changed when he was messing around w me for months.and how do you go from being married to moving in w someone after 5 months of dating and 3 wks after you leave your wife and child. how do you claim to come back only to prove a point to your family meanwhile you say you don't care what people think or say about you.so why come to prove a point?and at the same time put your child through the confusion.one minute here next minute gone?<p>he even went to counseling 2x with me while still living w ow.planned a family trip for nov.(now cancelled)spent wkends at the house talking about i am coming back i just don;t know when and then in sept.bam he comes back and at the time was pretending him and ow were through (says that was also part of his plan)<p>and he was ok with having daughter on the wkends but slowly he start to not come on fridays,and not call and show up at his convience.or he would come but not spend the night with her. everything was when he got ready.he is very selfish.<p>so how does one move in with someone so soon and not even give themself a minute to deal with the issues as hand how do you move in after 5 months of dating and think this is the one?i think its impossible am i wrong.and how do you spend yrs with someone using them and lying to them all along