how do you go from being married and living w your family(wife and child) to moving to your mother's house and 3wks later moving in w ow(whom you having been having an affair w for the past 5months?)<p>h went from 10 yr relationship with me (cheating through out the yrs)to living w ow whom he works with,goes to lunch w,goes to work with and back home w. he has been living w her for 8 months.he came back for 6wks and then went back to ow whom he is currently with.<p>wouldn't someone want to be on their own especially while we go through the whole divorce process?this man has never lived alone. <p>he went from living at home with his family.to moving in with me.to know with the ow.doesn't a person need time to heal/think before getting into another live in relationship?that is just what i am thinking.how do you go from married to not even divorced yet and living w ow and going ahead full force.he in no way is try to conceal that he is living w this woman whom he works with.<p>wouldn't a normal person want to go find there own place had their marriage not worked out due to their own yrs of infidelity and lack of maturity.i am currently living w our 6 yr daughter and couldnt even imagine living w another man.let alone dating right now.i feel like i need time and strength to get over this failed marriage b-4 i could even consider getting serious with someone else.he even talked about having a child with ow (although i don't know that could have been nothing more than talk)he seems to do a lot of that.<p>but is that normal the way he just bounced from living w me and our child to bam right to ow house?pls repond i would like answers.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by leftalone:
wouldn't someone want to be on their own especially while we go through the whole divorce process?this man has never lived alone. <p>he went from living at home with his family.to moving in with me....
wouldn't a normal person want to go find there own place had their marriage not worked out due to their own yrs of infidelity and lack of maturity....
but is that normal the way he just bounced from living w me and our child to bam right to ow house?pls repond i would like answers.<hr></blockquote><p>You have answered your own question. Sensible mature people wouldn't behave that way. What's normal for such a person isn't normal for someone with a track record of "yrs of infidelity and lack of maturity." Reading this forum, it seems all too common that the wandering spouse wanders to the OP whenever possible.

My H moved out into his mom's for 2 months then straight to OW's house. He says at the time that he was not involved with her but why else would a 35 year old man move in to a small 2 bedroom 1 bath house with a divorced woman and her 5 year old child. He says for privacy and quietness. I say to have another woman to take care of him.<p>He hasn't spent anytime with our kids alone. She goes everywhere they go and does everything with them from watching movies to cooking etc. I don't think my H is capable of being by himself.<p>He has never lived alone in his life. He moved straight from his Mom's when we got married. <p>I was hoping he would get the opportunity to see what living alone was about but I didn't get my wish. OW has it covered for him. I do think she is more demanding financially on him lately. He is looking a bit ragged around the edges....<p>Good luck. I know how you feel. They need to grow up. PP