I just got the divorce papers from my stbx H and I don't feel anything. I am not sad, I am not happy, there is nothing. I have looked through them once and marked them up pretty good and I just haven't been motivated to go back through them again. I will, but I don't know when. I have to say though that it was a huge sense of relief when I saw the child support amount. <p>We have been separated since the end of August 2001. There hasn't been an affair on his part as yet as I am able to tell. He just said he didn't love my anymore and he walked out on me and our two boys (6 & 2). I have had my ups and downs since he left but now I am so very anxious just to move on with my life and the boys' lives. I am working through the past with a counselor and I am learning an awful lot about my marriage that I didn't see. There was a great deal of emotional and verbal abuse that was manipulative over the last 8 years we have been married. It is unbelievable what I can see now that I couldn't see then. My H doesn't listen and won't talk to anyone and I definitely don't want him back in my life because I can't go back to what it was. He doesn't want to come back at all and that is just fine with me. <p>I have read so many of the postings on this site but so many of them have to do with affairs and I haven't seen many like my situation. I haven't really got a clue at all as to why my H left. Maybe guilt, who knows.<p>I don't want to be alone but I am coming to terms with that. I have never lived independently so this is a new experience. I have to say though that I haven't given up hope that I will find someone down the road who will accept me for who I am and will treat me with respect.<p>Just needed to talk.........getting these papers was a little bit of a shock because it has really put all of this into reality.<p>Thanks
K<p>Is there anyone else going through this type of situation where your H isn't having an affair but leaves just because he doesn't love you anymore?

My stbxh served me papers himself on the 9th of October. I can't proved there is an affair going on (but boy the gut feeling is there). H told me that he didn't love me anymore etc...<p>He wanted me to sign the papers right then and there. I told him I would have to have my attorney look at them. He thought I was crazy.<p>I went to my attorney and she said the more she read his "AGREEMENT FOR DIVORCE", the madder she got. She told me it was the smartest thing I did was contact her. <p>You didn't say in your post if you got yourself an attorney. Please do so. He walked out on you. You have children and yourself to think of. Your future!<p>Beth