Since my STBXH had delivered the divorce papers to me on 10/9, he and I have had NO contact what so ever. The last time I spoke with him, it was to tell him that if he wanted to talk to me about the divorce, he needed to contact my attorney. He has not spoken a word to me since then.<p>He will call our OS on the cell phone (which H gave to him), and ask him questions, but he will not contact me. I told OS it is not his place to let his dad know how the family is doing. OS doesn't know everything as he works and is never home.<p>I have not contacted him either because I feel that he left us - walked out of our lives, lies to us about where he is living and with whom and if he needs to find out something, he could call me. Am I just being stubborn here, or what?<p>Am I suppose to contact him to let him know how the children are doing? I say NO, that is his job to find out, but it just makes me made as all get out, that after almost 20 years together, we can not even communicate.<p>Is this normal through the divorce process?

Its the FOG Bug. He's can't go face to face because he knows he's guilty of something.<p>Next he'll be asking the kids what you are doing, if your seeing anybody, going out, etc.<p>My advice,
1.) Take care of yourself.
2.) Go out witht he girls from the office or something. have a night a week out. nothing fancy, movie and dinner. rollerskating (HeHe)Get out of the house..
3.) Start going to the gym if you don't allready.
4.) GET A LAWYER. Don't let him blow by you. I assume by post he is the leaver. Contect the Divorce. If anything he will have to look at you from accross the table. <p>Tex.

I agree it is his resonsibility to ask you how the familiy is and if he wants contact it is up to him, he left you. If he wants to know things then he should have stuck around to find out, this is the why he wanted things not the way you did.