my question is [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] o people really change.my h had been cheating throughtout our marriage.i believe he was cheating the day he said i do. we were married for six yrs(separated by our 7yr anniversay)<p>he was cheating left and right.had a with receptionist at work while i was pregnant and so on.he is currently living w someone from work(different job) they have been living together for about 8.5 months he moved in five months into there relationship at which time he lied and told her he was separated and divorce was in the works.<p>he claims he wanted out of the marriage for yrs but just didn't know what to say or do.so in his mind he made himself divorced.<p>at the same time after we had been separated for only 2 months he started spending wkends at our house to be with daughter (yeah right) he slept in the same bed w me and we were intimate on occassions.ow thought he was at his mothers house w our daugther.this went on for months.until he moved back home for which only lasted 6 wks.ow thought he was at his aunts house.(another lie)
finally everything blew up and ow found out everything.<p>he is now back at her place.claims the truth is out and they are gonna work for there.(there love for one another is so strong) yeah right. she is who he wants to be with and he is now gonna be a changed man. meanwhile he was the one who cheated throughtout our marriage not me.i was always trying to make things work.so how did he come to the realization that he can be changed?how do you cheat on your wife,abandon your family and then think you have found "the one" and you are gonna give this "new relationship" your all b/c that is what you want.what was it about me that was so "not the one"?<p>he went to counseling w me 2 sessions and back out.says he doesn't need someone convincing him what to do.he can change he doesn't have a sickness.he had the affairs bc he wanted to.now he doesn't want to and he wont <p>meanwhile they work together so they
1.go to work together
2 do lunch together