After I posted my thing about forgetting to call, I read over other posts here and realized what a long way I've come. I'm hoping in some way, I might be able to give some small hope to those here who feel there's no hope.<p>Starting from more than a year ago, I was posting here, and had many of the exact same questions and feelings that many of you are posting. Feelings of despair, betrayal, sadness, and "How can my ex or stbx have such a heart of stone?" kinds of feelings.<p>Now, I'm asking about a couple missed calls.<p>The replies I'm seeing are right on the mark. If you have kids, focusing on your kids is such a lifesaver. Focusing on yourself is another lifesaver, as well as seeking help from family, friends, counselors, and insightful strangers. I did all this, and I couldn't have done it without all of them, and without all of you. I am happier with myself than I've ever been. I've been telling friends that in some ways, divorce was the best thing to ever happen to me. I mentioned this to Steve Harley, who was hardly surprised by that feeling.<p>Oh, there are battles sure to come, and little pieces of the future battle rise up today, and improper feelings aren't nearly resolved yet.<p>But look how far I've come, and how far all of you will go, guaranteed, as long as you seek strength from wherever you find it.<p>[ November 12, 2001: Message edited by: trying2bme ]</p>