Anger turns to pity...<p>WS XW is moving to be near OM. (about 25 miles away) I have primary custody of our daughter and we are on a 50/50 schedule right now. According to the divorce decree, she will have to do all of the driving.<p>She says that she is unhappy where she is now. She will be moving from a brand new apartment complex, ground floor to another new apartment complex 3rd floor. She thought it was stupid that the apartment we had (I still have) was on the 2nd floor. (When the creek flooded recently, I know I slept fine.) She says the new apt. cost less and is nicer. (translation, she's unhappy with life in general)<p>She's still unhappy and is looking for any way to be happy. She is still pursuing him in hopes of being happy. I pity her.<p>She says that she will make the sacrifice in doing the driving. Whatever, she's being selfish and looking out for herself. The OM has no kids and could move, but no move on his part. It looks like she is chasing a pipe dream to me. I pity her.<p>On the upside, I recently got myself a 2001 Ford F-150 Lariet SuperCrew. Sweet.<p>Also, my best friend's wife has been playing matchmaker trying to get me together with her co-workers friend. (a flight attendant, no less) I saw her briefly recently. She's cute and seems to be down-to-earth. I'm almost ready to date. If I had a girlfriend right now, life would be peachy.<p>I'm hanging in there. The tables are turning.<p>Kevin<p>P.S.<p>Also, my brother's wife who filed for divorce is having second thoughts and they look to be getting back together. I'll take a huge amount of credit as I was able to suggest the right course of action which as you all know can be counter-intuitive. (my advice to him was the opposite of the advice he was getting) If they want to go, let-em. Tell them you love them and move on. Usually setting them free is actually what brings them back.<p>It's nice to be turning lemons into lemonade.<p>[ November 14, 2001: Message edited by: father of 1, husband of 0 ]<p>[ November 14, 2001: Message edited by: father of 1, husband of 0 ]</p>

it sounds like things are going well for you, the best revenge is to be happy and You don't have to pity her this is what she wanted. I can tell you it is nice onec you date and have someone new around, I can't beleive how much different woman treat me than ex did, they tell me things that ex never said, hang in there and keep moving forward

Kevin,<p>Through your post I have decided I am the oposite of your wife. I am originally from Arkansas and my family would now love me to move back home. I refuse to do this. I would never uproot the children for my own selfish needs. Also, they need their father close and in their lives. I also could not see even moving out of our school district right now. The children have been through enough as it is. They need stability in their lives. Your wife seems very self centered. Was she always this way or only since the affair?<p>My family and friends are trying to match make too. I am actually going to go on a double date as friends with a man when I go back for Thanksgiving. This was set up by my sister and I agreed as long as I can keep the date as friends only. <p>I want to go out with men right now but for the next few months I would only like to go out with them as friends. Before my husband, I had more guy friends I could relate to than women friends. Because of being married and not feeling opposite sex relationships were appropriate, I now have no guy friends.<p>Here's a question for you. As a man, do you think their are men out there who would be willing to go out with someone as a friend and only establish a friendship? Also, do you think I am being logical that men and women can see each other as friends only?<p>I just want to slip slowly into the dating world. Reestablish some trust and not jump head first into the water. I just don't know if I am being realistic though.<p>Take care,<p>ANNA

Anna2000,<p>My WS XW has only been this way since the affair. She's normally a very giving and thoughtful person. I'm sure her "friends" and family are telling her to follow her heart. <p>My most recent conversation with her was a pleasant one even though it was a business conversation. She was telling me her woes. I just said that I understand. (Am I learning or what?) <p>The more I hear about the OM from my daughter, the more I agree with his XW that he is wierd. Too fat to put on a seatbelt and nasty feet that need lotion. Diabetic? Yuck.<p>Here's a kicker just for you. I was born in Arkansas and most of my family still lives there. I've been in Texas so long, I'm native. Texas is my home.<p>The friends only thing. Doubtful. For me, at this point, I see only being friends if being a lover is not possible. That's what I feel. What I think is that friendship must come first and friendship can endure, whereas love comes and goes. I know that for a relationship to last that the friendship has to be there. I know that I made a mistake by not marrying my best friend. It's a shame that the love part was there, but not the friendship part. Live and learn I guess.<p>Kevin

Kevin,<p>How cool that you are originally from Arkansas too!<p>I feel the same about Houston. Houston is my home now, not Arkansas. I sure love to visit though. The children are well established here, they love their sports and swim team. I also love weather, the beach and all the friends I've made.<p>I am dying to know what part of Arkansas now. At least approximately anyway. If you don't mind telling me, I'd love to tell you if it's close to where I'm from. My email is at the bottom. If you don't feel comfortable with emailing, I do understand.<p>Take care,<p>ANNA