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Maybe I am being petty...but I was really sick on my birthday (9/30). I knew I didn't want to go out, but I bought a bottle of wine, cooked him a nice supper (he gets off work at 9:00Pm. Its now 10:30pm and I beep him. He calls back and I say where are you. He goes I gave one of my coworkers a ride home and he invited me up for a beer. I said its my birthday...he said your sick anyway.<BR>I was so hurt. Do I have a right to be. I mean im no spring chicken but He is the one I wanted to share it with. He comes home around 11:30 screaming at me that its my fault I was sick and I expressed to him that I didnt want to go out to eat. I never said dont come home. Of all nights he does this. He rarely does it at all. But to me birthdays are special. And it hurts. Please am I being a child???????
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No you are not being a child. You were sick and feeling blue about being sick on your birthday. We can't control our feelings but we can control how we respond to them. The real problem was lack of communication. You said,"you did'nt want to go out". You meant, "Come home and comfort me." Your husband heard, " she want's to be left alone and sleep." Because healing the relationship is more important then being right apolopgize. In keeping with Dr. Harley's advice apologize for not making your needs clear to your husband don't defend your reaction. Promise to try to be a communicator in the future. We men can be real oafs so you women need to spell things out pretty clearly for us.
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