i just needed to vent. well stbx is just a creep.he has no remorse for anything he has done.he has yet be the least be apologetic. <p>daughter's bday is on thanksgiving and he is not even coming to see her.he made "plans" to go meet ow family. he claims since i told him to stay away he made other plans.he is constantly saying "since i told him" since when do i have control of his actions??????
why is he always using me as his excuse?and why is he not going to see his family on thanksgiving?<p>he is just so amazing in how he thinks and how he acts?how do you just act like oh well this is my new life and just go be with ow's family on thanksgiving?meanwhile last yr when they were together he was with his family (since their affair)was still a secret.<p>all of a sudden now its out in the open and he is playing mr.wonderful boyfriend going to meet the family. (what a jerk) and says he is planning on coming to see daughter day b-4 her bday.(meanwhile i have already made plans for that day)
i can't sit and wait for him to tell what he was planning on doing(i will not change my plans)
why should i???<p>he just ran away and now is "starting over" mr.i have changed and this is who i want to be with.so therefore he isn't gonna cheat on her. he will probably just stay in his relationship with her even if he is miserable.(has a problem)with speaking up and telling how he really feels. <p>what makes him believe that things between him and her will be different.i wasn't the one who cheated throughout the marriage. he did the things that has brought us to this point.<p>he has to remember at one time we were"happy" like him and her currently are.and without counseling how does one just change?can he really be faithful if he was cheating all through his marriage(even when i was pregnant)<p>can he just stop and turn things around?
i think the only thing that will make his situation a bit hard is they work together and do everything together so it might make it a little hard for him to sneak around. and when you are with someone 24/7 won't you get tired of that?
that is what i want to know.<p>pls post i am feeling very weird today.

just needed to bump myself up i need responses.

Leftalone. <p>He is being a jerk. No doubt. He will take all his bagage to the OW. Like I said in my last reply to you. <p>"IT'S THE FOG".<p>Try to focus on you.<p>Tex.

(((leftalone)))<p>&#8220;&#8221;&#8221;he has no remorse for anything he has done.he has yet be the least be apologetic.&#8221;&#8221;&#8221;<p>For in his fag covered eyes he has yet to see the damage that he has done. Obviously, by is total self-centered actions, he is only thinking about one person at this time and since that person is getting what he wants he is not forced to feel the guilt.<p>&#8220;&#8221;&#8221;daughter's bday is on thanksgiving and he is not even coming to see her.&#8221;&#8221;&#8221;<p>Can you say @$$hole. My God peoples hurtful selfish actions without regard to a child&#8217;s emotional well being never ceases to amaze me.<p>&#8220;&#8221;&#8221;why is he always using me as his excuse?&#8221;&#8221;&#8221;<p>Please understand that at the place that he is at right now his mind will not allow himself to have reasonable thoughts. His mind is doing everything that it can to hide the tremendous amount of guilt and shame that flows through his veins. So by laying everything on you once again his true emotions and feelings are suppressed.<p>&#8220;&#8221;&#8221;i can't sit and wait for him to tell what he was planning on doing(i will not change my plans) why should i???&#8221;&#8221;&#8221;<p>Two points here:<p>1. Your exactly right why the heck should you have to sacrifice for his lack of planning and plain ignorance?<p>2. As much pain as he has caused you right now, for this occasion you need to remove your feelings from the picture and do what&#8217;s best for your daughter which may not always be what&#8217;s convenient or comfortable for us who are sain.<p>So with those two points being made it looks like you&#8217;ve got some thinking to do. I&#8217;m quite sure that your daughter is a bright child and has the ability to see what is going on around her. Furthermore, in time she will form her own opinion about her father&#8217;s abilities as a parent. But I beg you to let her do that totally on her own. You know as well as I do what the results will be and by her seeing that you were always the better person she&#8217;ll gain even more respect for you.<p>Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers