Tom,
See a counsellor and take the kids...they need a neutral adult who is there for them! (I think I suggested this when you first posted on the board!)<p>To address the personality issue type thing that you seem to use to justify why your X is MAD and INSANE and beyond understanding.You once told me that the more insane and surreal the situation the harder it is to understand....and we grab at anything to try to explain logically what is going on when nothing will really do!<p>You cannot now understand too much about your X. That is just the way it is.You will drive yourself insane too...and then where will we all be without you????????<p>Furthermore,it is not her personality type that is causing this...since I am the "same" type, but very different as I do think things through to a point of fault and know many of the implications of actions and reactions..In otherwords I do think things through and agree with your prspective on this.<p>It is actually an impulsivity issue for your X...not personality type per se.<p>We are all imbued with a certain personality..but it is our life experia\ence aswell which dictates who we become and how we behave....personality is but one small componenet....and of course when insane.....through a mid life crisis, or a personality disorder, depression or whatever, then this coloursit all as well.<p>Good luck...you will need it...especially if your kids mom becomes a teenager with them!!!