Wow, survived the holidays in great order, but am totally ticked off at STBX! <p>A bit of history. Younger D's birthday was the end of June, STBX kept telling her he had a wonderful present for her that she had always wanted. When he saw the girls in counseling Nov 5, he FINALLY gave my D her card and enclosed was a receipt for a $50 gift certificate to Chucky Cheese's. D was really excited and we made plans to go today with some of her friends and all. <p>STBX called her Tuesday night and asked her what she thought about CC's, she told him we were all going and he laughed and said it might be kind of hard since he had the gift certificate card and that he planned for her to go when he could spend time with her. She was devastated! I later told her that I was sorry for what happened and she told me that it was OK, it wasn't my fault that her dad was a [censored]. Under the circumstances, I couldn't even get mad at her for her language. He also asked her if she was going to ride on the Christams float again in the Christmas Parade again this year. <p>This "man" has no physical visitation of the girls, zip, nada, nothing at all. The girls do not want to see him, yet he keeps on playing the games with their minds. the older D has been released of ever having anything to do with him at all, but the younger needs to see him in the counselors office for an hour every month. How can someone torment children and think they have the right to do so? He sat in the court room and listened to the mediator tell about the girls saying he beat on them, read the letter from the counselor that the girls want nothing to do with him, and still takes an oath and states that he never abused the girls or I in any way and he wants every other weekend custody and overnights with the younger D.<p>After he didn't get custody and the girls and I lost the permanent restraining order, we did get 100 yards of clearance around the house and he *whined* that he couldn't go across the street to the neighbors. So the judge is excluding the across the street neigbor's from the 100 yard protection zone. STBX called a-t-s-n and told him he lost the kids but he was still going to get the house and keep his money. The girls and I are pretty annoyed about him having access across the street, he plays games every chance he gets when he is over there, and the girls lock up the house fully or stay at friends until he is gone. <p>The bad thing is that the report from Child Protective Services hadn't been released to the courts when all this happened so the judge didn't have anything substantiating the abuse at that time. I am to continue my counseling and the support groups and try and get older D in support group so that we can find out the extent of the abuse against her. We may never know what all happened with her, but enough flags are up that we have to try.<p>Even after all this, STBX's attorney still decided to subpoenae my medical records because I mentioned in the 4 hour deposition on "why I want a restraining order" that I went on anti-depressants for a brief time. Legal harrassment is truely a pain in the rear, and STBX's attorney keeps telling him I am going to be paying all the attorney's fees. That is why he hired a $750/hour attorney who is telling the court's that I am being unreasonable and costing lots of fees to his client. All I have done is try and protect myself and the girls from STBX and his forms of justice.<p>I'm sick and tired of being pushed into a corner by STBX and his attorney, I am totally ticked off about what he has done to the younger D, and I'm thankful that the older D now has the choice to have nothing to do with him. He is so far into denial that it scares me... I really don't know what he is capable of anymore. <p>Lori

Lori,<p>Just wanted to let you know I read your vent..and can understand your frustration...and empathize with you

Lori, <p>It's nice to see some of the "oldies" sometimes, isn't it? I don't know what to say, other than that I'm here. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this and that he is being so hurtful to both you and your children...it's just heartless!!<p>May I offer you a hug? {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lori}}}}}}}} I know this is an awful struggle and it feels like it will never be over, but you will be okay. We are all here for you. You can do it, and when you can't, we'll help!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>If you ever need to write, you can email me at cindy_cj_wolfe@hotmail.com. <p>{{{{{{{{{{Lori}}}}}}}}}}<p>
CJ