Almost a year ago, I found that my ex-wife was cheating on me... Well everything went down hill from there with our marriage. We separated, and six months later, divorced. We have two very adorable children, and even though we have gone our separate ways, the children remain the top priority for us both. After the separation, I took it really hard. I blamed myself. It took several months, and a lot of support from friends, family, and clergyman to see the world a new again. I started lifting weights again, and was seeing a counsiler. It now has almost been a year since my ex-wife and my separation.<P>When everything started, I vowed to myself that I would love again. I did at the time want to save what marriage I had left, but knew I was just going around in a circle of dispear with only one ore. In June, I ran into a friend of my sister. We have always talked, and got along great. Well, afterwards, I went to my sisters to get her phone number. My sister said that she was not going to step on any toes, and would ask her if it was OK. Her friend (K) has a daughter my sons age, and she just adors me, and I her as well. (K) said yes, I could have her number. I called (K), and we talked four several hours. In August, I took her to Walkins Glen for a race. Afterwards, things were going really good. I had a lot of strong loving feelings for her, and told her what she meant to me. A couple days after that, she said that she wanted it the way it was before, to be platonic... I was confused. I would ask her why, but she would not tell me...<P>About three weeks ago, she started e-mailing me again. She said she would be in my area, and asked if I would like to do lunch... I jumped at the offer. Ever since, we have been e-mailing one another. things are again going really good. We have talked about the distance we are from one another (25 Minutes), and distance from where she lives, and where I work (1 hour). We agreed to take it one step at a time. <P>Like I said, everything is going great. I guess if there is anyone who has been in this situation, or has some dating advice, I would love to hear it.<P>We both view one another a possible ideal mates, but the hell that we both have gone through, are a little timid to jump it. She means the world to me, and I tell her. At times, I fear that that scares her.