Here goes...<p>My BIL and his wife are in the process of divorce. They have 2 children 1yr and 4 yrs.<p>BIL met another woman and left his wife. They now live 700 miles away near my MIL.<p>BIL's wife has become a regular bar fly. The kids eat and sleep at BIL's wife's parents. BIL's wife works 2 jobs and when she isn't working she's at the bar drinking and/or trying to get f#$%^!<p>Her parents don't receive any $ from BIL or his wife. However, BIL is paying child support to his wife. Another words, BIL's wife doesn't spend any time with the children.<p>This is a conversation that took place in my front yard, between BIL's wife, her mother, and my MIL.<p>my MIL: bring the kids the next time you come by.(she never takes them anywhere)I'll watch them, how hard can it be to change a diaper.<p>BIL's wife:just feed Child and change Child's diaper and Child will be your best friend for life.(refering to the youngest one)<p>BIL's wife's mother:how would you know, Daughter?<p>That was straight from her own mother, oh and there is more...<p>Anyway here's my dilemma... H and I are going to see BIL, BIL's girlfriend, MIL, grandparents, and aunts and uncles over Christmas. BIL ask us to bring his oldest daughter with us, but BIL's wife won't allow it. She wants daughter to spend Christmas with her family.<p>SHE LIVES WITH HER FAMILY.<p> [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]
So I'm looking for advice on how I can convince BIL's wife to allow BIL's daughter to go with us. And how to help prevent the 2 of them from putting the kids in the middle of this divorce.

M&J,<p>I was not going to respond on this one because when I read it, I just thought, you are getting in the middle of this when you shouldn't be. However, since no one else responded I thought you might want to know this was my thought.<p>I'd say get out of the middle and let BIL and wife worry about it.<p>Take care,<p>ANNA