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#716779 11/27/01 05:55 PM
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I went out on three interviews over the Thanksgiving holiday that would bring me closer to my husband. I moved 4 hours away about 5 weeks ago, my husband had filed for divorce and i was distraught, alone, and was on the brink of insanity.<p>I discovered restorem.org, a website that gives hope for thos in troubled marriages or who are experiencing divorce. Since that time I've prayed, and grown closer to God. I've abandoned my thoughts of finding someone else, as it would be against God's will (Matthew 19:9). However, I'm afraid that if I don't get the job, I won't be able to move and all hope of restoration would be lost.<p>I need prayer and encouragement from anyone, please reply with any thoughts!<p>Oh, I spent the Thanksgiving holidays with him and the kids, there was no arguing,we were intimate. I prayed for my tongue to be restrained, and it was. I was more attractive to him, and he told me. I pray for our marriage and family.

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Hi, <p>I am visiting over from GQII and wanted to let you know that it sounds like you have hope!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Keep up your plan A and be patient. I am glad you and your family had a nice time. <p>L.

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Thank you Orchid for your reply. I felt a little discourged this morning because I hadn't heard anything from any of the companies. I plan on calling them this morning, just to get a time frame on when I should hear something.<p>I feel somewhat scared though. I feel like my husband has lost hope, and that if I am not there to show him how hopeful I will lose him forever.<p>Any comments or encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

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Don't lose hope. The job market is very tight right now. Companies are slow in making decisions. The economy is in the dumps and many companies in need of assistnace but are finding it hard to justify and expense. You have the holidays as well. Most companies don't make hiring decisions until after January one. <p>Keep a posative attitude and have faith, the rest will fall into place. I got a real great e-mail today it said the following:<p>May today there be peace within you. May you trust
God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
"I believe that friends are quiet angels who lift
us to our feet when our wings have trouble
remembering how to fly."<p>[ November 28, 2001: Message edited by: eyes_wide_shut ]</p>

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SEBREA,
God knows your heart. He will open the doors you need. Just ask for answer to your prayers. Even if the jobs you applied for don't pan out, if it is God's will that your marriage be restored, he will open the right doors for that to happen. Focus on him and ask for discernment and guidance. My prayers are with you!<p>MOM

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Thank you all for your responses. I have followed up on all my interviews, and am frantically waiting a response. There is no doubt that God wants my marriage restored, for he hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and I know it is in His timing. I just want so badly to be there near my husband so that I am available to him.<p>I miss him, but I am not going crazy. I don't call everyday, just enough to let him know were still here and thinking of him.<p>I pray that all works out and that I hear something soon.

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My husband called me at work today, to talk about the divorce and how we should settle the selling of the house. I told him that I would trust him in his dealings, and that I would not go to court or contest the divorce at this point. He was shocked by my calm, agreeable demeanor.<p>I am not going to battle with him, as that would only thwart any possibility of us reconciling. Instead, I am going to agree with him and continue to maintain a quite, gentle spirit. <p>He wonders if I have found someone else, but I tell him, and it's the truth, that I have been faithful to him since we've dated, and that no one could compare to the father of my children and the husband of my youth. He can't believe my new attitude.<p>I'm confused, excited, and hurt all at the same time. I don't know what God has planned for my future, but I am trusting in Him and he is giving me a peace that transcends all understanding.


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