I gotta admit that I'm stumped by the way WS treats me. Okay, so I'm in plan B. Okay, so I went to it on Thanksgiving morn.<p>But she's been this way for a couple of months.<p>Does anyone get this?<p>It could be me, but Don Ruiz (4 Agreements) says it's never about you.<p>It's sure directed at me.<p>We've posted on the nonsense WS says, how about associated behaviour?<p>Thanks

Family Man,<p>Yes it sure does feel that it is all directed at you.....that's the idea! As long as WS's are blaming us BS's, pointing the finger at how horrible WE are, they never even have to deal with their own shortcomings.<p>Remember that a WS will reinvent the past, lie, put on a stone face around you, say the same words as all other WS's and so on...if you realise that they all have the same behaviours, you will realise that your W's behaviour indeed has nothing to do with you. It is a pattern of behaviour associated with this horrible time, and it is there, I think, as a protection mechanism for the WS.<p>Not that it does US any good!!! [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>So, a lot of people here call the things WS's say Fogese....if you treat it like a foreign language, it may help you to see that WS doesn't know what she is talking about either. She is speaking in tongues.<p>I hope this helped!<p>Love and light,<p>Jacky

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Thanks, guys. I needed that!<p>I think she's a P/A conflict avoider. I am out of my league! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>It's easier to position things so that it's my fault rather than look within, or appear responsible...<p>It's very important to her that she appear "innocent"..truth is not an issue to her.<p>AKA fogese...<p>I've tried to look hard within and find where I can improve.<p>It's all I can do.<p>Thank you for your help!<p>Dan