Thanks again for all your advice. Since last posted msg., I have filed a restraining order against ex-H; He's since 'egged' (if you can believe this!!!!) my mom's car and spit chewing tobacco on mine!<p>He's still parking at nite in my neighborhood and 'observing' my house. I've changed my phone no. and while at the Family Violence Center to obtain order, picked up some flyers & brochures on what the law considers 'Domestic Violence.' <p>I now see I was in a VERY HOSTILE, VERY POWER AND CONTROLLING relationship and it wasn't normal. <p>Funny how love is...<p>Now, once a day or every 2 days, I feel a little 'down' and cry after spending 5 yrs w/ex but it passes quickly when I remember how he acted and the events that took place over that time. <p>If anyone would like a copy of this flyer that compares a healthy rel. to a power & controlling one, I'd be very glad to post or send it.<p>I'm sure it'll take some time to completely heal as it seems I was to my misfortune, the only one who loved anybody in my marriage...<p>He will be served w/restraining order in a few days and he's afraid of the law so I'm sure that will keep him away. This is not a very 'normal' situation. <p>But for Ms. O, I love your 'Plan H'!!!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>See you guys! Jordan