I had NO idea it was coming. We have been married for 6 years, have to girls ages 2 & 4. Everything seemed fine. Then recently he announces he is no longer happy being married, wants things to be like they use to be. He says he has been unhappy for about 2-3 years. Why he didn't say something sooner is beyond my understanding. He says that when I get home from work I don't offer up a hug or a kiss and I never initiate sex. He basically has felt neglected for some time. I wish I could say it wasn't true, but I have come to realize that I have been so focused on being a great mom, I have failed at being a wife. I love my husband with all my heart and can't stand the thought of losing him. He says he loves me & is IN love with me...he just wouldn't re-marry me. He has left me so very confused. They last few weeks I have been trying to make up for the last 3 years, overkill maybe... well it's not working. He says the thought of being single and having only himself to worry about is pulling him away. I never thought this would happen to me. I can't stop crying and I can't keep food down. I wish I would wake up from this nightmare. CAN ANYONE HELP ME? PLEASE!

Oh, what you must be going through! Did he even offer a clue before now? Have you read any of the information in this site? I'm sorry, I can't offer any advice, just some consoling. Except this, would he consider counseling? He does have children that he should be thinking first and foremost about before making this drastic (and pardon me, but selfish) move. Pamper yourself and be good to yourself right now. Please know that my thoughts are with you.

Thank you so very much for your kind words. Last night was awful. We tried talking again. I think it's too far gone. However we do have an appointment today with a marriage counselor...let's hope it works.

I wish you the best of luck. Please keep us posted.

Just got back from the counselor. This Doctor is NOT the one for us. Discouraged my husband even more. There is another Doctor we are going to try next week. Not certain if he will go. His newest, Mind Boggeling statement is that when we split up he wants to only be with me, no one else and that we must "date" only each other. Said he wants to have control over when he see's me and not be forced to see me everyday. <BR>I don't get it!!!!!