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Joined: Dec 2001
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I am in the middle of getting a divorce. I am happy with my decision (the marriage was abusive)<p>Here is the question; how did you let others know? I know that once I change my last name back to my maiden, I am going to get a lot of questions on the job from some that mean well, and others who will be thrilled that it did not work out. Also, how do I deal with people at church? We was a high profile couple basically because we had a ministry together. I am just starting to feel good again, but I can use help on how to do this.
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I'm not sure myself, but I've found that a short and simple answer seems to suffice.<p>When asked, my first instinct is to tell a little more than I really need to...trying to let the person know that it wasn't MY choice....I'm not the one who had the affair. But then I started to see that that wasn't a good answer or way to approach it.<p>So now (although I'm not quite divorced yet) I just say, I'm no longer married and if they persist or ask what happened, I just say it's a long story and turn around and ask them a question. That allows me to choose who I may want to tell that story to, rather than going into it with everyone.<p>Hope that helps.
Aloha,
Ms.O
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Oooops...double post.....<p>[ December 27, 2001: Message edited by: Ms.O ]</p>
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I read some where to just tell people you are divorced and leave it at that, tell them things did not work out, You don't owe anyone an explanation unless you want to give it, I chose to tell the truth the way I saw it. I did this for me not for the benifit of others it helped me to except that it was over and I was moving on.
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