h and i will be divorcing shortly after the new year. i just had a couple of things that just stay on my mind. first of all how does one just live w ow and are so happy and content? knowing they have hurt innocent people(myself and our daughter) <p>we are both pretty hurt by his actions and all he is concerned with is the ow and hurrying through with the divorce.<p>we decided to split the cost and his contribution is $500 i asked that he give it to me in full since i'm sure he got a xmas bonus and i wanted to go to the lawyer on 12/26. well he only gave me half and he also gave me $316 for child support which he had stopped paying back in sept. <p>i just figured he would give me the whole $500 and the child support would just be added to the balance he owes since sept. <p>wouldn't it have made more sense to just give me the $500 and get the divorce started and just let that child support pyment be added to the rest?
he owes about $1700 already so whats $200 more? <p>now he will probably mail the divorce balance this wk and then start buggin me to hurry up and get to the lawyers office. <p>just like xmas he brought daugther's gifts over the sunday before only thing i didn't know he was coming (never called) until he was at the train on his way and we weren't home. so he ended up dropping the gifts off at his aunts house which we went to on xmas day only he didn't he spent xmas with ow and her family just like he did for thanksgiving which was also our daughters bday.<p>he kind of shows up on his time and hasn't seen our daughter for any holidays and she took not seeing him for xmas real bad. he did call her wow big deal. and the sad party is his job is closed from the friday before xmas till the new yr and he didn't come see her till the 28th
think he would have at least came the day after xmas. <p>he rarely calls her and makes no effort to see her. when he came on the 28th he was only around for 2hrs tops b/c he takes his sweet time and i had plans for daughter that day (we were meeting some people for dinner) so that was about all the time he had with her. and hasn't called since
i know him he will probably call and wish her a happy new yr at midnight. <p>i can not understand the way he is. and i know him he is trying to make ow think i am giving him a hard time with daughter and not letting him see her but how do you just stay away and just come 2 days before every holiday? he lives and works with ow. so they are both off till the new yr. how could he not be concerned with seeing his child? <p>ow will be home when he returns. he spends so much time with her 7 days a wk holidays and all by now he should be sick of her or at least wanting a break oh well i guess he is in "love" and can't stand to be away. <p>i am so hurt by the way he has treated me and our daughter that i can't even stand to see him or here his voice. its so hard to deal with this and the only reason we are were we are is due to his cheating. we didn't have any other problems <p>she isn't the first affair just the first one he actually left me for. he just seems to treat me like i was just a girlfriend and not his wife/mother of his child. it burns me to see him so happy with ow and like oh well with me telling me to just move on. its the best thing for both of us. those are his famous lines. <p>he has no regrets for any of his actions and is so happy to be living with ow (he moved in with her) he has been making his relationship with her public for months and he isn't even divorced yet and his only concern is having daugther meet ow. he hardly spends time with daugther and has yet to talk to her about anything just kind of wants to throw daughter at meeting ow.i think she needs to adjust to us not being together and once she deals with that then and only then gradually let her meet. <p>he is just ready to jump at it with both feet and i don't think its good for daugther he needs to be around more and spend more time with daugher one on one b-4 the woman and daughter meets.
he just went about this whole thing the wrong way and is only concerned with himself. <p>daughter is 7. we were together for 10yrs and he so easily moved on without looking back and without regrets. me i am just trying to deal with the hurt i am not thinking about another man i have nothing to give as far as a relationship. him he got into one and moved in before getting divorced and was even talking to me like we would work this out. <p>he has played so many games (he even moved back for 6 wks) and daughter that he was back and he said it was a "plan" to prove to his family we wouldn't work out meanwhile he isn't even close to his family never calls them or visits. he is full of it. and said he didn't think about how coming back would affect daughter???shouldnt that have been his first concern <p>pls post
