I finally got the nerve up to call my X today after dropping off her gift last night. She never came home last night so she hadnt seen it before we talked. I called her at work and was extremely suprised to hear how nice she was over the phone. She says she has some ultra sound pictures and she asked if I would like some. Of course I said "I would love them!"...I didnt mention anything about our separation and only said that if she needed anything to contact me and that it was good to hear her voice. She replyed with its good to hear yours too. She said she will be bringing by the ultra sound pictures in the next few days..What do I say? How do I handle the situation. I found when we where on the phone together and I asked how the baby was I almost burst into tears but hid it very well even though my voice got kind of scratchy. Im not sure how to handle the situation...I havent seen or heard her voice in over 4 months and everytime I think of what its going to be like I start to get extremely nervous.. I love her more then I have ever loved another and right now in my life she means more to me then you could ever imagine.. Please..Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle the situation or what or what not to say... I dont want to screw this up...

Gee VintedVooDoo, I am so sorry no one replied to you. I myself just got back on the computer after an absence. I hope if you've seen your W all went well. If you haven't, just be as nice as you can be and glad to see her and the pictures, but don't overdo and try not to cry (if you are a man who does ). Be supportive and caring but don't gush and proclaim you undying love. That scares them sometimes. She'll get the picture. When we persue them they are more likely to turn tail and run, try to guage how she might be feeling(very hard to do, but it can be done) and talk kindly and gently to her. Watch her body language too. Does she stand with arms folded, a distancing stance, is she eager to sit, near you, away from you, again don't push. I tell my H every time I see him that I love him. Calmly and nicely but not desparately. That's all-I love you-then I talk about other things. It has begun to work wonders. But when I was pushing for him to give me back something,anything, even hate, he just turned tail and ran. This seems to work better. But you need to go with your gut,too. Good luck. I'll be praying for you. Scotti [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]