My Ex sent me this email last night:<p>Laura:<p>I'm done being treated unreasonably. I&#8217;ve been threatened, falsely accused and then denied contact with my daughters. Although you have custody, as the father I do have some rights and I could play an important part in their lives. I love my daughters and want only what is best for them. I can&#8217;t see that you will ever treat me any differently and that tension is NOT in the best interest of the girls! <p>Tom, you said you wanted to adopt the girls, so if it was more than just another threat, and you were serious, I&#8217;m willing to discuss it as a resolution to this conflict. I'm through beating my head against a brick wall, trying to keep our parental relationship civilized for the girls. I realize that Laura will NEVER be a decent human being towards me and sadly, her attitude comes across to our daughters and creates the need for their &#8220;loyalty&#8221; to one parent or the other.<p>I will always love the girls, will always be their father, and they are always welcome in my home&#8212;those things you can never change. My only prayer at this point is for them to have the best lives possible. I think that I have much to give them but my hands are constantly tied. Sadly, I can see no resolution other than to step out of the picture so I will no longer be used as a source of torment in their lives.<p>--David<p>Well, this just confirms my gut feelings. He'll twist it however convenient but it really boils down to not wanting to pay child support. <p>Jan, what do you think of my fanatical assessment now?<p>Sigh.

Laura,<p>Okay, I pegged him the first time...JERK! I would ignore his email and take him to court for the back support he never paid. <p>It definitely confirmed it, and what a jerk. Someone who would give up their daughters for money...Sheesh!<p>ANNA

I agree with you- he's fanatical - ALWAYS have.<p>I would go after the support he owes - definitely. Let him tell the courts he wants to give up custody of his daughters... that's where that statement belongs! EVEN if you adopt - he still OWES support to this point.<p>Laura - make copies of that email - with ALL the email info included - KEEP THEM IN YOUR SAFETY DEPOSIT BOX. THAT EMAIL is worth more than GOLD to your daughters.<p>It may be your only means of protecting them.<p>Unless the support is absolutely necessary - you might seriously consider Tom adopting them. I would allow the girls to make that absolute choice however - they are both old enough to make it.<p>Decide between you and Tom what you want to do then let the girls in on the decision. But, show them this letter - don't keep your reasons silent.<p>Jan

Thanks, Anna. I've known for years that he's like this, but that email still shocks me. Such a turnaround from come live with me, babies, and I'll take care of you....to okey-doke, Tom, adopt 'em, I've had enough.<p>I can't believe ANYone will play horrible games like this with children. And I was MARRIED to one of those anyones!<p>I have no intention of responding to the email, at all.<p>Jan, thought you might also appreciate a comment one of my friends made. She said:<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>What a number these supposedly loving fathers do to their children and then blame it on everyone but themselves.<hr></blockquote>

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Laura - what your friend said is so true.<p>The key is 'supposedly'...<p>Sorry to say it - but there are many of those kind out there. I realize there are good fathers out there too, but I honestly believe they are the minority.<p>Hang in there girl!!!<p>Jan