I am a newlywed and am confused about our sleeping habits. We are happy, in love and comfortable with each other and enjoy our marriage... and sex life! <P>The question is: is it normal not to snuggle and cuddle during sleep? We snuggle and cuddle sometimes and talk before going to sleep but actually sleep separately during the night. I toss and turn quite a bit and sometimes end up on the couch out of consideration for my H, which bothers him - he says he misses me. <P>I have read several articles that make me think since we aren't entwined in each other and "spoon" all night that something is wrong. Is it? Since being exposed to these articles I feel that something is missing that other newlyweds / married people have that we don't... is there? We both work full time jobs and have no children. <P>Any opinions on this would be greatly appreciated!

dear lk<BR>dont' worry! as long as you're both happy and emotionally & sexually satisfied in your waking life -- it's okay to need some space when you're sleeping. my husband and i often fall asleep spooning or holding eachother, but in the night, we turn away from eachother simply because it's more comfortable. it doesn't mean we don't love eachother, it just means we have different sleep styles. don't create a problem where none exists. just have fun and enjoy each other when your conscious!<BR><p>[This message has been edited by spotlight (edited December 08, 1999).]

Us too! We have a great sex life and spend a lot of time snuggling in bed afterward, but when it's time to fall asleep we move a part. I like to spread out. Besides my husband snores so he turns on his side away from me so he doesn't snore as loud and I can't hear him as easily. Upon waking up though we set the alarm a little early so we can snuggle while hitting the snooze!

Been happily married for over 21 years. We have never been able to sleep tangled together. Some times we will snuggle for a few minutes but when it is time to sleep we do that seperately. Oh and by the way the sex gets better with time!

My H and I, married 13 years, sometimes "spoon" before sleep, but don't sleep snuggled. <P>In fact, I have a bad cold, and last night I was sawing logs so badly he slept downstairs! Fine with me...I'd rather he do that than go sleepless and then fuss at me in the middle of the night, like he did last time!

Hi! <BR>Thank you all for your responses. It is a comfort to know we are "normal"!

<BR>lkgrubb,<P>Go to redbook.women.com/rb/marriage/features for a great article on how people sleep together and what it means. Let me know what you think. Regards.

That is the article that I read and that is why I was concerned in the first place!