my stbxh and i are trying to sort the divorce matters out but he is being impossible.<p>first of all he is trying to get over money wise and i am not gonna let him get away with it
he has always had the final say pretty much when we were together and now we are not letting that be the case.<p>he is trying everything in his power to not pay the amt the courts will tell him he needs to. he subtracting out school tuition,daughter's college fund. i told him i will give him half of each but he has to give me the full amt for c.support. his thing is he wants to just subtract out the amt for the tuition,college fund and i told him NO we will handle each separate and he is giving me a hard time. <p>its such a problem for him b/c he claims he is really strapped for cash.(not my problem)he is behind also on c.support b/c he stopped paying from sept till dec. <p>he was messing around with me while we were separated and he was living w/ ow and now she knows it b/c i told her. so now he wants to introduce our child to ow b/c she feels when he is spending time w daughter on the wkend he will be with me. i told him she doesnt have to worry i want nothing to do with him and just b/c she doesn't trust him my daughter should not have to suffer. they are being selfish and need to handle their trust issues he put himself in that situation by lying to her and saying he wasn't spending the wkends at my house when he was<p>he came back for six wks and she believe he was at his aunt's house and he was with me. she feels silly b/c she was so cocky about him wanting to be with her and believing every word he said and it really suprised her when she heard all the games he was playing<p>needless to say there are living together again and he feels the only way he can prove to her that him and i are not hanging around one another is to introduce daughter to her i told him i don't think right now is a good time.and he should at least wait till divorce happens and then slowly bring her up in conversation and then gradually let them meet <p>he is very stuck on talking to our daughter and seeing if she is comfortable meeting her and letting our daughter decide.(daughter is 7) <p>he also hasn't seen daughther often since he left after his fake return in sept. and calls her at his convienience and now he just wants to up and get them together.<p>i told him he needs to let our child get used to the fact that she has a relationship with me and one with her father and then gradually into ow.
he just wants to throw all this at her i feel its to soon <p>our daughter has seen to much and needs to adjust before having some stranger thrown at her. he is just being so selfish and so is ow
she needs to see daughter needs to adjust to dad and daughter before ow is shoved in her face. <p>i am looking at the best intrest for our child he is just worrying about himself and ow bc now he has to rebuild trust w ow that was lost when he was clowning around with me and get back that comfort level that was lost when i told ow all the stunts he was pulling<p>i am over with him and told him they need to grow up i am all of a sudden a threat to ow she was so confident before but now she doesnt want him and i to be around each other and feels so has to be present when any of that comes into play. <p>so what they live together i don't think right now is the time for introductions and he is being so unfair to his daughter shouldn't he wait till divorce is final before adding more fuel to the fire???
