I want to do something symbolic with mine. I have visions of smashing it with a hammer. Ok, maybe I am projecting what I want to do to my cheating ex H on to the innocent ring, but it is probably more socially acceptable. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Somebody suggested saving it for my daughter, but it obviously meant so little to my ex H that I am pained to see it, and wouldn't want to give her anything that had such mixed emotions from me. Anybody do anything exciting with theirs??<p>Who am I now (Krista)

I have put mine away to save for my daughter (now 11 mos.)<p>I want to make it into a pendent for her college graduation... I want to wait til she is at an age to appreciate its meaning and value. <p>Or... I might sell it and buy something just for me... most jewelers will take old jewelry...u just have to buy something twice its value.

My mother kept hers and for each child's High School ring she had two of the small diamonds removed and gave them to us for our High School ring. Once I finished high school the diamonds were gone, and it was just a band, I don't know what she did with that, but it wasn't the bulk of the value of the ring anyway.<p>You could consider doing something like that, so your daughter has a component of the ring, but not the ring itself which holds such mixed memories for you.

I can't tell you what i am going to do with mine, but my girlfriend brought her's to a jewler and had it completly remodeled. Even the gold band is now silver. You are only emotionally attached if you see it that way. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

My ex and I took all of our "couple" memories (our wedding guest book, "our song" album, our marriage certificate, our wedding rings, and pictures of us together) and gave them to our three children (they're young adults).<p>If you have children, especially, it's very important that you treat the marriage with respect NO MATTER WHY IT ENDED because to THEM, the marriage was special, since it was THEIR FAMILY.<p>Don't do anything you can't take back - like smash the ring with a hammer, unless you know FOR A FACT you won't regret it later.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by new_beginning:
<strong>If you have children, especially, it's very important that you treat the marriage with respect NO MATTER WHY IT ENDED because to THEM, the marriage was special, since it was THEIR FAMILY.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>My X wanted to basically damage, destroy, or throw all items assoaciated with our wedding. So I got all these items put away in a special place to give to my girls when the time is right.

When did you know the time was right to remove your wedding ring. My husband's affair was with a bottle and he wants to end the marriage and I don't. Maybe I do and just don't see it yet but he has removed his and I just can't seem to yet.

It took me a little over a year to finally remove mine. I tried the whole first year Plan A....and when it was pretty clear that is wasn't helping me, I moved to Plan B. <p>It was at that point that I removed the ring, took down all the pics of my H in the house, moved all of his stuff into the garage and asked him to come get it and decided to move on with my life. <p>That was exactly a year ago and I'm doing pretty good. The rings (his and mine) are up in the attic with all the other "wedding/marriage" stuff...I don't have kids but don't want to throw it away either. So it just sits there.<p>Aloha,
Ms.O

I threw mine in the glove box of my truck...how profound....<p>I wore it 6 months longer than she did....and now it symbolizes nothing really...its become just a piece of metal.<p>I wonder if I can make fishing hooks out of it...or perhaps sinkers...that would be useful.<p>I know it was a painful thing back then... and now I think of it a potential fishing equipment. <p>I think Im healed [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>
Take care everyone.<p>Randy

My H and I are still trying to work through his A of two years ago. One of the hardest things for me to accept was that he did not have enough respect for me to remove his wedding band when he was with her. When H said he wanted to work things out I told him I could not bear to look at the wedding ring I had given him knowing that he wore it each and every time he touched her. I had him remove it and I bought him a new one. I gave the original band to our oldest son. Like someone else said...it's still a part of family memories and I did not want to completely destroy it. Our oldest son took the news of his father's affair very hard and lost all respect for him. When I gave him the ring he started to cry. He said he would always keep it. He has never given up hope that my H and I will work things out and the ring..to him..is a symbol of all the happy times we had together as a family. I'm keeping my wedding set for our daughter. The rings still hold special memories and mean a lot to each of them. Don't destroy them in a moment of anger. Keep them for your children or grandchildren.

I don't advise passing them down to the children to use, as they are cursed. . . .<p>i would pass it down as a memory, but then again, how many of you have rings from you parents?<p>my X's wedding ring came from her Great grandmother, who was very disruptive to her family, very manipulative, and very critical of her son. . . .<p>see my point?
never again, if i ever marry again, the new W gets a ring from me, no one else. . . <p>also, we never went together to buy furniture, my X and her parents always bought the stuff, or we got hand me down mostly from her parents. . . junk, more junk, etc. we did buy some stuff, but very little. . . . sofas mostly. so my only stipulation was as little X's family stuff as possible. . . .<p>and the concept of getting married again is not in my consciousness. . . . <p>wiftty<p>[ January 10, 2002: Message edited by: WhenIfindthetime ]</p>

I have two daughters so I couldn't split one diamond between them. I agree that it's kinda cursed anyway. Soooooooooo, I sold it and bought new den furniture. I know for a FACT I will never regret that. Love the furniture and the ring symbolized nothing but lies and manipulation by the end anyway.

I placed my ring in the car ash tray. <p>At this time, I could not destroy it or toss it out yet because I still love my wife. I never realized how much a symbol can mean to a person. I regret not having worn it except for the last 2 months of my broken marriage. I put it on when I realized how much the symbol (used to) meant to my wife. Unfortunately for me, it was too late.<p>The ring thing is sort of sentimental.. my wife suprised me at the wedding with a ring she made her self using the lost wax process. THe ring was sized to big, but I refused to get it resized since it was made by my wife. She makes gold fillings so a ring is pretty simple. Anyway, since the ring was too large I did not wear it and being a man who never wore rings, I really didn't think too much about placing it in the bathroom drawer with our tooth paste.<p>Oh well, the ring still means something to me. Even though my wife took her wedding ring off a month ago. I took the engagement ring out of her jewelry box in anger figuring she did not deserve the ring and I would give it back when returned home to her husband. <p>Well she went over to our house to pick up more stuff and she called me at my parents to ask me where the ring was and I told her. I asked her why she wanted it. She told me because it was hers. Then I asked what it meant to her and she said "NOTHING." ouccccccccccccccccch that one pierced my heart. I suppose it must mean some thing to her still, but she wouldn't tell me. Maybe she'll just sell it.<p>Some day in the future, I'll be able to let go. Right now things are still too fresh. God may still work a miracle.

H had only given me a plain gold band, told me I had to wait 20yrs to get a diamond, I did ask him for his back he is so cheap he would have worned it again after MOW gets her D & they are married, thought about selling at yard sale but our 12 yr old son wanted them, he put them on a military chain and kept swinging them around, I will have to replace his computer desk it was made of soft pine & got a beating, he was taking his angry out on the rings, they are now flat & throwned somewhere around the house for the cats to play with. To me they are bad luck.
m-17yrs
c-12,28,7 yrs gd
D-1-22-02
MOW-10yrs
C-small boys
D-pending