I am divorced now, but yet my xh still has the ability to make me so angry. I have done my best to cut him out of life. He was the one who phoned me on Christmas day. He is the one who asks who I am going on holiday with, is it a boyfriend. He is the one who wants to know if I am happy and he is the one that tells me personal information about his life, questions I never asked. And now he is the one saying we should cut all ties. Grrrrr&#8230;. We still have some business things to sort out and only when I am enquiring about these types of things do I phone him, today he says, when all this finished he just wants it to be clear that we will cut all ties etc. That he is very happy. I never asked&#8230; I don&#8217;t care&#8230;. Why do I still let him get to me? I cannot wait until all this is finally over. I have tried to help him where I could and he took my help but all of a sudden I am the evil fairy again. It pisses me off so much&#8230; <p>And just on the dating thing&#8230; I think all of you who say waiting for about a year are probably right. I met this incredible guy through inter dating, but he lives 1000&#8217;s of kilometers away, so we haven&#8217;t met in real life, but have spoken over the phone. Well I really fell very hard for him, and now I am hurting extra there because we have decided to only stay friends because of circumstance etc.<p>My life once again is a huge and total mess&#8230;<p>Pantha

I went through the samething, I couldn't figure out, why EXW kept making contact when she was the one who wanted out and was living with other man, she would contact to say she didn't want anything to do with me gshhh. My therapist said for some reason the phone was her way of staying conected to me. It sounds to me he is in the fog and doesn't know what to do.

my x still makes me angry. He has the stinkiest, most confrontational attitude toward me. And I don't like him. He's the bane of my existence. But he is handling my after-school child care for me - saving me $300 a month, roughly. But I would love to have no contact with him. <p>We were working out a schedule yesterday and I had to step away and get something to write on. When I got back to him, it was all I could do to lay my anger and, possibly, hatred of him aside so that I could go back to the task. And I could see his contempt for me all over his face. <p>How sad that parents of children come to this. But how do you get over it? The scars are so big. And the job of the "didn't want it to be this way" custodial parent is so huge. Maybe what I feel isn't hate. Maybe it is resentment.