My wife and I married 32 months ago. It was each of our's second marriage. We had some ups and downs, 17 months ago she asked me to leave. <p>There's been no affairs for either of us.<p>We tried one counselor, then started the divorce process and stopped when we started with another counselor. Didn't go well and we started the legal process again. I convinced her that we could make this work and have been in weekly counseling since the end of August, 2001.<p>I am trying to resolve the issues that she feels are blocking us from reuniting. When ever we get to clos to them, other things come up.<p>She tells me I am number 3 on her list behind her children and her job. she just doesn't ahve enough energy after 1 and 2 for no. 3.<p>Last week, she is not certain she wants to continue with the marriage. She keeps telling me she wants her space.<p>A few months ago, she mentioned that one of her fears is that she beleives that after a certain amount of time (say 9 months) that the marriage will fall apart again.<p>She also said one time that she has a belief that everyone that she has loved as hurt her and abandoned her. So if she doesn't commit to retoring the marriage, she won't have to get hurt again.<p>She has put the wall up and doenst' let many in and let's even less of her feelings out.<p>Any suggestions as what I can do to help her see and commit? I know that after a perios of time, she will get lonely. I keep asking her to look toward the future and not let the pain of the moment overpower her.