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I am the one that is unhappy, I am the one who thinks of leaving my husband, I am the one who is no longer in love. I am also the one who would rather die then hurt my husband the way that I am hurting him. Sure, he can live in a sexless, unpassionate, hum-drum marriage. I am the one who has a lump in my throat and a sick stomach because I know that this is no way to live- we are only 29 years old. Life is too short to be stalemates. We have been "working on" our problems for years with no success, and it seems that I'll be the one deciding on euthanasia for this dying marriage. I can't imagine life without him, but I can't imagine life with him. I do not want to bear his children, I can't imagine us seeing eye to eye on our deepest problems, I can't see us truly being happy and at peace with one another as husband and wife.
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Joined: Oct 2001
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Hi Duff,<p>I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. It must be hard.<p>I don't have any real advice for you other than to go to the main www.marriagebuilders.com site and read the concepts, etc. While you may have both been "working on" things before, maybe Dr. Harley's approach will give you some hope that perhaps things could be different.<p>Have you spoken to your H about what you are feeling right now....that you are seriously contemplating separation...ending the marriage? Maybe you should. What does he have to say about it?<p>Please don't give up. There has got to be a way.<p>Aloha, Ms.O
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Two books for you:<p>"Divorce Remedy" by Michele Weiner-Davis and "How One of You Can Keep the Two of You Together" by Susan Page.<p>Before you make any decisions, please read them.<p>Cali
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