I'm glad to see you possibly moving towards reconciliation. If W has a BF and you have a GF then you and your W draw up the letters together, go the postoffice or mailbox drop them in the mail together in agreement to the BF and GF and go from there. At least you both know you set off the bombs together at the same time since one may be scared or concerned that the other is not ending the BF/GF relationship.

Hi, <p>The exW got out of her relationship about 6 weeks ago. She had sugested 4 months ago that she was going to do so an dteh reason was "she felt she still loved me". At the time I was very leary of he rcoments as I had heard she would get out of the relationship in the past but never was strong enough or did not want too. BTW teh BF was the same guy that resulted in my filling for divorce 3 years ago and teh second of 2 affairs durign the 6 year marriage. <p>On my end - I was and have been torn between ending a relationship with someone who does treat me and my kids very well however there is something not right (doesn't feel right) as stated above. I think part of it is teh living together and part of it is we have many mutual friends who I know won't support me on this one as they know the full story of her A. <p>We shall see. -

My two cents is that you both owe it to each other to work out the issues and to explore whether your marriage can be reconstructed. <p>Most importantly, there is nothing at all wrong with doing this for the "sake of the kids" so long as you are both working on yourselves, working on healing and creating a healthy family. Sometimes it is the best reason. <p>Builld a strong foundation this time but take it slow.<p>As for your girlfriend, be honest and don't drag it out. It will be painful to her, as it was for you when your marriage ended, but your first responsibility is to yourself and to your children right now. <p>I have heard of success stories of divorced couples reuniting. I have known a few. You may also want to check into programs like Retrouvaille and Covenant Keepers (both have sites on the web).

Do you still love her and want to have a life with her? If so and you do decide to try to work things out I would draw some clear boundaries with her from the start. You said she brings up reconciliating when you are in a relationship, I wonder why that is. She is not ready to see you with somebody else maybe? I would be so cautious. But I do personally know a couple who divorced after H had a live in affair and a child with OW, broke up then ended up remarrying his wife. Then him and his wife had another child together and they are doing fine now and are happy. The W said she had to do a lot of healing. But it is not impossible. Good luck to you.

Vale, <p>I think I will always love the exW, we were together 7 years prior to marriage and 6 years of marriage and still remained &#8220;friends&#8221; for three years of divorce. Can I or we have a life together &#8211; not sure and is why I struggle with the whole idea. I know a guy who divorced and tried after 6 months but failed &#8211; every situation is different however.<p>I agree &#8211; boundaries have to be set and I agree and my concern about this is that this is the &#8220;adult versions&#8221; of her inability to see me with another person?