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W/s said no intention of coming back . this is the first time that she has said that and it gives me some relief. So we continue with d.
We have had a calm 6months but know it seems that we are getting down right mean . a lot of alagations being passed around . Is this common and why does it happen ?
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Divorce sucks. People hate going thru all the bs, and it is hard to think about airing all your dirty laundry in public. I know that having all this divorce stuff going on makes me crabby, even though it is not my fault. I guess you should just try and keep it simple. Talk to her only if you have to. I don't know if you have kids or not, that always makes it harder. Try and do the things you need to do and don't get caught up in all the he said she said bs. If she is doing this with other people just ignore it and be the better person. Then - SCREAM IN THE SHOWER, with Garth Brooks at full volume. At least that is what I do.
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I have both of the kids with me . Today she faxed me and suggested that i was getting a kick out of this d. also that I wasnt helping her convince kids that they should be spending more time with her.
Kids 15/17 say that they dont want a schedual
they want to come and go as needed and not to spend time overnight. W/s dislikes that idea and she is telling kids that I am controlling them.I offered in Oct. to get a schedual set up that would make all happy she chose not to even talk about it. It is my opinon that w/s was stringing me along . making me feel that there was a chance that we would atleast try to rebuild and now we are at the11th hr. I am sorry for the pain that I can imagin she is in but there is not much I can do. She sort a burned that bridge. My help has run out.
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Divorce brings out the worst in people - it's just an adversarial process by nature - and WS is upset because they don't want anyone telling them they can't have things go their way.<p>Stay your ground. Listen to your attonrey. Do what you know is right for kids, and if you don't know, get some books, talk to a child counselot etc. <p>WS's want divorce to be quick and easy and then they find out that it's anything but. Make sure you are looking out for yourself and the kids, and then let whatever she says roll of your back. K
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