HELLO,
I HAD POSTED A FEW DAYS AGO ABOUT MY HUSBAND AND THE LIES,DECEIT AND WHAT ALL WAS HAPPENING IN MY MARRIGE. MY QUESTION IS- HE IS NOT EVEN TALKING AT ALL TO ME, OF COURSE I HAVE BEEN HURT BAD SO I CAN'T AND DON'T WANT TO TALK TO HIM EITHER. I CAN'T EVEN SLEEP WITH HIM NO MORE. HE LOOKS SO SAD IS THAT HIM JUST TRYING TO MAKE ME FEEL GUILY FOR SOMETHING I DID NOT DO? I FORGOT ALSO TO SAY IN MY POST THAT HE HAS BEEN LAID OFF OF WORK,A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO HE DID TELL ME THAT WHEN HE GOT LAID OFF THEY TOLD HIM THAT THEY WOULD BE MAILING HIS CHECK TO HIM. OK NOW IT HAS BEEN 2 WEEKS NOW NO CHECK. SO I ASK HIM IF HE CALLED THEN TODAY AND HE SAID YES BUT THEY TOLD HIM THERE WOULD BE NO CHECK AS HE IS A PLUMBER AND THAT THE HOUSE HE WAS WORKING ON THERE WAS NOT ENOUGH HOURS PUT INTO IT. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT IS HAPPENING HE WENT TO WORK ALL THAT WEEK BEFORE HE GOT LAID OFF BUT NO MONEY NOW. I ASK HIM WELL WHY THEN DID THEY TELL U THAT THEY WOULD MAIL U THAT CHECK AND THAT IS WHAT HE TOLD ME AND I SAID WELL THAT DON'T MAKE A BIT OF SENCE AND THAT IS WHEN HE SAID THEY LIED TO HIM. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] SO TALK ABOUT IN THE DARK I A'M CAN SOMEONE HELP ME FIGURE OUT WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON??? THANKS CATHY

I don't know what to say, in the dark, I mean...wow. I wonder why you couldn't get your meds before your H was laid off? That would help. I know what you mean about SSI. But didn't your H get insurance from work? Also, my H is getting better about paying bills, but we had some rough times there too. Have you told him how you feel? It sounds like he may depressed... and loosing a job can do that. See if you can get him to read some of the information on this site. I am very sorry you're in this situation and will pray for you.
As far as posting for help...I did the same thing, so I wouldn't worry about being a pest.

Hi there,<p>Can you give us a little more info on your situation. Do you have kids, how old is your husband, has he been thoroughly checked by a doctor lately?<p>I see that the lack of communication has been going on for some time in your marriage. Can I suggest you get a hold of a book called His Needs/Her Needs, because this is a good start to using some of the concepts on this site. Also Relationship Rescue........that one can help you work out exactly what is WRONG with your marriage.<p>Read all you can here. Anna 2000 has a post on this page designed for newbiew, like yourself. It has links to explain all the concepts.<p>Love and light,<p>Jacky

HI
NINATOO, NO I DON'T HAVE ANY KIDS,AND NO HE HAS NOT BEEN TO THE DR LATELY. U WERE RIGHT AS FAR AS THERE HAS BEEN NO COMMUNCATION IN A VERY LONG TIME. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] I HAVE TRIED AND TRIED AND TRIED TO TALK TO HIM BUT NOTHING EVER CHANGES. HE SAYS HE WILL CHANGE BUT NEVER DOES. HE WILL READ WHAT I ASK HIM TOO BUT THE PROBLEM THERE IS IT DON'T SINK IN AND HE DON'T EVEN TRY, ONCE HE READS IT I THINK HE DOES THIS JUST TO KEEP ME OFF HIS BACK. BUT I A'M SO SICK OF LIES DECEIT , DIS HONESTY, HURTFULL THINGS BEING SAID TO ME PUTTING ME DOWN IN FRONT OF MY FRIENDS ECT. I CAN'T EVEN STAND TO BE IN THE SAME ROOM WITH HIM ANY LONGER I HATE TO SAY THIS BUT HE ACTUALLY MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH. HERE JUST A WHILE BACK HE SAID WHEN ARE U EVER GOING TO TRUST ME,I SAID I WAS TRYING BUT THAT IT WOULD TAKE TIME AND HE RESPONED BACK WITH I HAVEN'T LIED TO U LATELY. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] SO I REALLY STARTED TO TRY AND OPEN UP TO HIM TO FIND OUT THAT HE HAD KEPT A LIE FROM ME FOR 6 MONTHS. WHAT THAT WAS WAS WE WERE FILEING BANKRUPTY AND WERE LOANED SOME MONEY TO START IT TO FIND OUT HE TOOK THE $650.00 AND SAID HE SPENT IT ON BILLS INSTEAD OF USING IT FOR BANKRUPY BUT HAD LIED TO ME THE WHOLE 6 MONTHS WHEN I ASK HIM WHAT IN THE WORLD IS TAKING SO LONG FOR THE BANKRUPY TO COME TO A END. NOT TO MENTION ALL THE OUTHER LIES HE HAS TOLD ME.I TOLD HIM HOW THAT HURT ME AND HE DIDEN'T REALLY HAVE MUCH TO SAY ABOUT IT. SO SEE I A'M REALLY IN THE DARK ABOUT THINGS I DON'T KNOW IF I EVEN REALLY WANT THIS MARRIGE ANYMORE. PLUS MONEY HAS BEEN COMING UP MISSING WHEN HE WAS WORKING AND COULD NOT BE EXPLAINED FOR.SORRY THIS IS SO LONG. CATHY