I recently just moved back to New York after a decision to move to Atlanta, GA for business opportunities. What a nightmare, everything I ever worked for in New York I lost it due to this move to the ATL. <p>The results of the failure has caused a complete turnaround in my marriage. My wife left Atlanta New Years to take a job here in New York, I remained to pack our things and also decide whether I would stay in Atlanta or move back to New York. We agreed she would come down for marital reason like twice a month. In the process of getting this whole thing situated I began to notice an ever greater separation between. The calls were very late and not as frequent. I confronted her about it which ultimatley turn in to a nightmare. <p>One weekend her job sent her to training for the weekend. This particular weekend my wife and I really argued like never before. She told me what her training schedule was but I was feeling really lonley at this time. I tried to sneak in a call here and there but it only frustated her to the point she didn't return any of my calls. My anger kicked like a Mike Tyson at a press conference. When I did speak to her our arguments had grown way out of controll and we both said things that i cannot display on this site!@#$%^#$&*(&^*&$. As a result she said she never wanted to see me again and don't call her anymore.<p>I got on the plane and came straight to New York to find out what was going on here. We agreed she would pick me up from the airport and she did not. She has refused on many occaisions to take my calls and I must call her job just to talk to her. In which that doesn't work out because she can't talk much at work. After about 2 weeks of begging and pleading some new information arose.<p>Our new cell phone bills arrive and I happen to look at them and to my suprise the numbers I am used to seeing were congested with new numbers. So I confronted her about an affair. She said she had gone out on a date but nothing happend. She has been so upset that she couldn't talk to me. Further investigating the matter, I came up with about 3 different individuals that were questionable partners. It took some time I believe my wife but it sure took me for a loop. But she did keep it a secret from me. So in given her space I also learned that she may have continued seeing whover... I wondered is that why she wanted the space in the first place. <p>This past saturday she went away with some friends, just to get away from me for a while. Yes I believe that she went wherever she said she was going. But we got into an even bigger argument by phone and I was at her parents house when it happend. Her parents now saw a different son-in-law. We argued at the top of our lungs over the phone calls she made while I was still in Atlanta. Upon her arriving in New York the phone calls started the very next day. She maintains no sexual activities, I maintain i believe her. But she did hide the telephone calls. <p>The events over the weekend has probably ended our relationship I hope not though, I love her. But i do realize there is a problem between us. She was scared of me up til today when i called her to apologize but still maintains she need space right now. Any suggestion are helpful because for me this is very painful.<p>Married 7 years, together 10 years!

HELLO,
I A'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU. LET ME START OFF BY SAYING HAVE YOU AND YOUR WIFE EVER TALKED ABOUT GOING FOR COUNCLEING? IF U HAVEN'T THEM MAYBE THAT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEAL FOR THE BOTH OF U. IF U HAVE AND SHE WON'T GO WITH U THEN MAYBE U MIGHT THINK ABOUT GOING YOURSELF,TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH ALL THAT IS GOING ON. THERE ARE ALOT OF COUNCLERS THAT WILL GO BY A PERSON'S INCOME IF THERE ARE MONEY PROBLEMS INVOLVED. AND LET ME SAY BY EXPERENCE U DON'T WANT TO BEG HER TO COME BACK MAKE CALLS TO HER ALL THE TIME FOR THAT MAKES HER JUST LOOSE RESPECT FOR U. BUT I CAN UNDERSTAND HOW IT HURTS. READ ALL U CAN ON THIS SITE,AS THAT WILL HELP YOU. KEEP US UP DATED ON HOW THINGS ARE GOING. CATHY

I've had something a bit like this happen to me, I posted under wife's affair on the Emotional Needs forum. You might have a look at it, see if it matches your situation.
Take care