HELLO,
I HAVE POSTED 2 THINGS ABOUT MY HUSBAND,AND WHAT HAS BEEN HAPPENING. I GOT 5 REPONCES BACK ON 1 BUT NONE ON THE OUTHER YET. I DON'T MEAN TO BE A PEST BUT I A'M IN DIRE NEED OF SOME ANSWERS TO MY QUESTIONS. THANKS CATHY. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Buy the book his needs , her needs and try to put it into effect. Take a deep breath and count your blessings. You are not going to be happy when you get into a nasty divorce either. My soon to be x sounded just like you. Sorry to say but she loves to be miserable. the more you do for some people the less they respect you.

Hey INTD,
I know you're unhappy and want to leave. Its so easy to say I want out and want a Divorce. Those words are like playing with fire though. Its almost like saying "you could just kill someone" not realizing the trap of being in a Maxium Prison, No Freedom, Told what to do everyday, an animal in a cage...Divorce is the same way when you leave the marriage lying, you're tormented and in bondage for years, you just sentenced yourself for 15 years of misery and a major emotional scar, hollywood makes it seem like you never hurt and you move to the next person in 30 minutes [not!] thats the LIE people believe, its a life changing discision. Its less painful to build a marriage than to tear down one.<p>I am a BS, I have not seen a person yet leave a marriage for the wrong reasons and not feel extreme guilt afterwards realizing they were the cause of the downfall yet they blamed the other Spouse without looking at themselves.<p>If your husband Lies, cheats, etc...to be a better person you ask yourself, how did he get this far in 10 years with you, when did it start, why did you let it go this far, have you been an enabler and supported him over the years and now you're changing from that...If you are changing what can you do for him to SEE you're not putting up with it no more where he may SEE he's losing you? Get some books, Pray, is yours and his spirit man dead?<p>Before you Really consider leaving examine what brought you together, what attracted you to him if you don't find that out you'll leave your marriage and find a possible other Lie, cheat, sneak person. He needs to know how you feel, if he knows he may just turn all the way around....Get the Facts and then you want have no regrets about what needs to happen and you can examine everything a make a clear and right choice of what to do.

Also ITD,in looking at you're other post, I can tell you already your husband is a man under very heavy financial stress. Your husband is losing his dreams due to it. All he can focus on is his financial problems, he's consumed with it. Because of worry he ignores you, because of creditors, he hides money and privately seeks his personal entertainment for relief. You appear to him as a creditor meaning "ACCOUNTABILITY" thats why he's distant from you...I can tell you never were to involved in you family finances as a partner, he handled everything, it should not be that way,.... No job, well he's shamed,feels like a loser, most men become that way when a Job is lost, most men feel they have to prove themselves they can hold a Job...AN Idiot in public, well he's self-centered right now, woes me poor me, all he can see is his world of trouble, insensitive...He's a frustrated man, If you become strong and take charge of your life and stand by his side and not behind him you may see a diff, you have appeared weak in his eyes, when you step up he's going to see he can't walk over you as before, you must remember even though he seems an idiot you're all he has, but he can't see it right now.