I am new to this board. I have been married for only 10 months but we have been friends forever.
The problem is my husband is a person who internalizes his feelings. I never know what he is feeling. He has no sense of intimacy or romance. We have tried to work it out but to no avail. Then he gets upset and wonders why when we have an argument, I want a divorce. We have tried to go to counseling but that has not seemed to work either. I can't believe we would divorce over something this petty. This is also his second marriage. In his first, he went out and got a divorce and regretted it.
Now he is saying he can't trust me to stay in the marriage because I keep attacking the "covenant".
He doesn't even want to acknowledge how I feel.
PLEASE HELP!
I think I am a day late and dollar short. He told me last night that he cannot trust me and he does not know if he can continue in this marriage. I told him that I know I have thrown divorce up before but if he could please give me one more chance? I asked him if he had any other issues and he said the only issue was the trust in me staying with him. I think he is going to file for divorce. I just cried and went up stairs. I have screwed up royally this time. <p>I have found a wonderful counselor that I going to go to starting on this Thursday. He is going to help me deal with my Anger and Conflict issues so that I won't run and threaten divorce again.I don't want to divorce over this. I feel that this can be worked out. I told him today to again reconsider and to give me another chance. He said he is taking everything into consideration and that was all he said.

Read about Plan A and B, talk to your H about his emotional needs, and explain yours to him, there is a questionare somewhere around here. Take a step back and a deep breath and understand that you are two seperate people with different views and needs. If you read around on this site you will get lots of concrete write em down fill em out ideas. Good luck.

Say M.....I know 10 months seems long when you're having trouble, to be of better help.....<p>How did you come together with him as to what led up to the relationship? Was it ethical?<p>Did you know his previous wife?<p>Why come he don't trust you? is it money, or around men?<p>How long was he divorced before he married you?<p>Does he still talk to his Ex-W? you said he regretts the prior divorce.