I haven't posted much just lurked but I have to vent.... I have been absolutely silent to my 10 year old son about what his mom and her boyfriend have done. He knows that I don't like the OM and that I don't respect him. It wasn't even me who told him that to start off with, it was my ex. Now he is asking me why I don't like him, that the om likes me so he doesn't understand. I said to him that perhaps when he is older he and I will have a talk about it. Then he pipes up "well it's not like he stole mom away from you or anything like that"... "and who told you that?" was my response.... "mom did"..... <p>At that point in time I wanted to lay it all out.... put him in front of all the people out ther that know... call up the om ex wife.... but I didn't.... When does this all turn around, she gets the divorce, she gets the boyfriend, she gets my son 60% of the time and I get to pay her for the privalidge of a part time dad.... there are times in one's life where moving away and never having to see them looks really good... but... I won't....<p>Sour grapes.... guess so...

The only thing I can say here is to try and take the high road, and be the better person. It all sucks. I understand totally. But the thing you need to think about here is the kid. Don't worry, they find out eventually. Just a bit older though, they do the math, they look at things. It may take a while, but betcha he'll eventually know the truth.