Hello,<p> I think I am beginning to feel that this is where I might be posting soon. I have been on MB almost 2 years. I lurk and sometimes post on the Preg Board or Gen Ques. I think I may be ready for the advice of this particular group of experts.
My husband and I have been separated alsmost 2 years. We have been "dating" each other for the past 6 months. That's it. Nothing is moving forward really except that we enjoy each other's friendship once a week, he is more comfortable coming into the house and I have done an excellent Plan A these last 6 months.
But at the same time, our divorce papers are slowly churning through the courts (I'm the one who filed in Nov. of 2000 when things were at their worst) I'd like my husband to make some sort of serious positive committment and cancel the divorce. But I bet because I'm the one who filed he really can't. Is that true? I'd like something from him other than to drift along like this for ever. He's like an amoeba - he responds to stimuli but doesnot really think. He's waiting to "feel" right and he may wait himself right out of the picture!! But I've waited this long and been this patient... I just don't know. Anyway, does anyone have any opinions or feelings regarding this?
Kris

From my experience, I can tell you that the divorce process drove me and my ws apart for ever!When her lawyer put lies etc in all of the court documents and she signed everything it became more than I could take. they lied about the amount of support all the way to me having children out of wedlock. If you love him, stop the process now.

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What does your H say about it? Does he want you to stop the divorce? Does he want to save the marriage?<p>I can't tell from your post. And maybe that's the problem...that he hasn't said one way or the other. <p>Can you bring it up to him? Ask him "Honey, you know the divorce papers are churning thru the courts; do you want me to stop that process? Do you want us to reconcile?" <p>It sounds like he's still sitting on the fence at some level. Do YOU want to stop the divorce? I suspect that if HE asked you to, you would...that being a sign that he wants the relationship. I also suspect that if he DOESN'T ask you to stop it, that too would be a sign that he doesn't really know what he wants and is willing to risk a divorce before he finds out. And I don't think you would be happy with him if he did that.<p>Yuk, what a terrible situation. Anyway, fill in the details. I remember you from way back, but not the details. <p>Aloha,
Ms.O