Well as some know my has had serial A's. For 2 months she begged and pleaded to sign the d-papers as I resisted because I tried to make the marriage work and believe it still can. While she said I was weak, passive, no decision maker I felt I had to do as she said sign because these were love busters and the other men appeared to be go getters and reponsive and spontanious. IF I didnt sign any agreement I would loose all my possessions in storage that includes also all my family history and all visitation with my 2 D's.<p>I signed trying to protect those things but it also gave her the out of the marriage also.<p>My Problem - She now says quote " I didnt make you sign those papers" " I didnt twist your arms" and make you sign nothing.....<p>She's now saying I was in total agreement with the Divorce and that I had no problems ending the marriage because "I signed"......My signing was for my D's amd my things.<p>I would advise those who are Manipulated this way to make sure they know if you are not wanting to end the marriage and you are FORCED to sign papers that you give them sometype of document stating you are not in agreement, therefore they don't try to throw there Guilt on you, making it seem you gave them the Go ahead, they are sneaks looking to blame someone even while they're still in Adultery...Send it certified mail it you have to before you sign.

Thank you.. It seems it would be hard to find someone to treat us worse than this..<p>Dan

Unfortunately, the WS would probably find something else to blame us for if not that. Until they take responsibility for themselves, we will always be the source of their unhappiness in their eyes.<p>It's not our fault, they just can't/won't look inward to find the source of their unhappiness.<p>Which of course, means that they will continue to be unhappy until they do. Not that I want my WH to suffer, I want him back, but right now he's not acting as the person I married, so I have to accept and deal with the person he is now.<p>K

No matter what you do, the ws is always going to blame you. It was your fault because you were this or that and you forced them to have the affair.<p>My x said I must not have loved her because I bought a cell phone soon after she left. It never dawned on her it was she left me with two children at home and I travel so they needed some way to reach me and I them.<p>If you are divorcing you can't worry what the ws thinks. IF you are marriage building or attempting to save the marriage, then you have to wrry above lovebusters.

The Ws spouse would have just found something else to blame you with, blame is what they do best. my EX called one day months after divorce and asked why I couldn't except it was all my fault she left and that OM had nothing to do with her leaving. She told me she waited 2 months after she left before she moved in with him and that proved, she didn't leave me to be with him. It proved it was my fault. there is nothing you can say or do that would be right

Thanks for your response , I never thought she would sneak and turn it around on me like that, I guess thats been a big part of the problem, they cause the problem and then say it was all your fault in the first place not searching for there fault in the matter also, the Great Blame game. Geeezzzz!