Well I guess I should have been more prepared for this... but I heard that my exh and the OW (wh**e) are getting married..... I didn't hear of any date... but anyway... she won !!<p>So now I'll have to look at her when my kids get married... graduate from Highschool and when they get married. Oh, lets don't forget that my grandbabies will call her grandma.<p>ok, I'm sad and tired of thinking.......<p>s

First of all, just because they may or may not be getting married doesn't mean it's going to last forever - especially given their track record.<p>I'd still take one day at a time. You're kids will know who walked the right path and who did not. <p>You are not the one making the wrong choices here, remember that. It's tragic what our spouses or former spouses are doing, but as long as we take the high road, we know that we'll always be ok, which is more than you can say about them.<p>I bet that is the hardest news to take though -I'm not particularly looking forward to hearing it myself, but in my book, let the OW have him, after all the lying and cheating and infidelity, they deserve each other.<p>K

<p>[ February 13, 2002: Message edited by: scoick ]</p>

That is going to be really confusing....... How does he not just think of you every time he talks to OW?????? My WH's OW has a similar name -Christine and she looks like me, around the same age etc. except a litte taller. It's weird that they're drawn to similar people.<p>For my next husband I'm going to g ofor something totally different - tall dark and handsome. <p>And maybe I'll meet him in a bar - I met my WH at church -if you can believe it.<p>I just had to interject some humor - all this crying and turmoil is just too much to take all the time.<p>Remember that while God loves us, He is a God of justice, and He's watching our Hs and XHs, who will certainly not get the better end of the deal continuing down the wrong path.<p>I also have to trust in God's plan for my life. God loves me so much that I know He has an awesome plan in the works. It's just not easy to see the why's right now. But I do have to say that even through all myu suffering He hasn't let me down yet. It's my WH who is the one making my life hell, and then God picks up the pieces. I hope that you are able to find that this is the case with you too.<p>Continue to take it one day at a time. Enjoy every minute of your life and every moment with your kids. Be thankful that you are the one seeing things clearly, I wouldn't want to trade places with my WH for anything knowing how much he's missing and how he can't really enjoy all that life has to offer because of the decisions he is making.<p>Of course I'll have to post when I've been divorced as long as you and my WH says he's getting married, and then we'll see how clam cool and collected I am.......<p>You'll make it. And be much better for it. K

Quote from scoick:<p>So now I'll have to look at her when my kids get married... graduate from Highschool and when they get married. Oh, lets don't forget that my grandbabies will call her grandma.<p>
Nah, they won't last THAT long....on the other hand, YOU will always have a connection with exH.<p>Take heart in that hon!<p>Love and light,<p>jacky

I heard the same thing about my exw a month ago, it hurt some, but life goes on and I have been praying that she is happy with OM, I have no control over her. I just try to get on with my life, therapist says they will do anything to prove what they did was the right thing. All I can say is FOGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG.

I can only say you look to me as my twin sister.
Everything is the same.
I 've gone thru this a month ago, and a few days ago they became proud parents of a baby boy (finally).
So I realized everything is over, finished.
I've got many good advices but I still love him so much that I still can't accept that every hope is gone for us.
I realy hope it's not in your case.
If you find a way to live thru this mess please let me know.
Best wishes

I am so sorry to hear about your XH. I have the feeling that as soon as we are divorced the same thing will happen. I know it is hard for you to hear.....it probably won't last ...what goes around comes around......stuff like that..because you want so badly to believe these things....but then he goes off and does something stupid like get married. In my case it has only been 6 months....how can he do this stuff so fast???? My H is living in the OW's new house with her son.....(NICE HOUSE)...he is so sucked in and he doesn't even know it. She must be good...she just seems evil to me. She doesn't care about him.
I have decided that I will wish my husband his health....and to keep his job....as for happiness...he doesn't deserve it if he stays with the very stupid OW.<p>Good luck to you....stay strong.....maybe you can treat yourself to something special.<p>MAX

My folks are divorced and both remarried. My kids do NOT call the OW anything but Brenda. She didn't bother coming to my HS graduation, and as for my wedding (not worth much anymore!) I had a private ceremony (we eloped), and then my Mom's side had a beautiful reception, and Dad's side had a beautiful reception. <p>You know what though, when my first little one turned 3 I decided to have one party. Everyone from every family invited, whomever wished to attend could. <p>Mom was there first with my stepdad, and when Dad and Brenda walked into the house my Mom walked up to my Dad, shook his hand and said "It's nice to see you Bob, we have a wonderful little grandson." <p>Of all the moments that stand out in my life, that is one of the most important. Seeing my folks be able to be in the same house celebrating my little baby. Well, I have tears streaming down my face now just thinking of it.<p>I have been the child of divorced parents, and now I am the divorced parent of 2 wonderful children. My biggest goal in life is to never put my children through what sis and I had to experience. <p>My mom can't understand. [censored] and I had divorce court yesterday am, and he had a bad car accident in the evening. He called, I rushed to the hospital. She had a fit, she can't understand. <p>The hardest thing in the world to do when someone has completely wrecked your life is to even imagine being considerate to his next spouse -Especially the OW. <p>The hardest thing in the world to do when you are a child is to have your parents hate each other and make no effort to act like adults.<p>I know that I am going to be a major Bit@# when it comes to the next Mrs. [censored]. I just pray that I can keep it under wraps enough to not hurt my kids. <p>You should hear how I talk about [censored] when the kids aren't around. I am one heck of a nasty lady. But having been on the bottom of this crappy triangle life handed me I know that whatever it is we feel or do, we have to put our darling babies first.<p>OH - and she didn't win. She got the boobie prize. If he was so quick to turn you in for a different model, how long will it be before he realizes that she is truly a horrible woman for having an affair with a married man. <p>Two cheaters in a bed. How long before old habits crop up? I bet 8 months. <p>Oh, and mom never looked at her. She didn't have to. I could give a crapola if she did or didn't. I just wanted my mommy and daddy to see me on my special days and smile.<p>You will be just fine.<p>You have been added to my a.m. prayers. I will pray for you to be strong and wise, I already know the good mom thing is covered.<p>Elizabeth