This is just too incredible not to mention.<p>Brief background - I filed for divorce to establish a stable visitation arrangement with my WH because he is a controlling person and was making my life H***. And there is no separation action in my state.<p>Anyway, technically our 6 month period for living separate and apart to qualify us for filing a divorce in our case is up on 2/25/02. We are having a hearing to set up a temporary custody and financial agreement on 2/26/02 and I'm going to have labor induced on 2/27/02. Well, my H has decided that he doesn't want to waste a hearing and would rather just have the divorced finalized on the 26th making our daughter a legitimate [censored].<p>Of course, he blames me for having to do this because I filed and wanted the hearing before the baby was born. (I wanted the hearing before the baby was born because I don't know how long I'll need for recovery time and with all of those sleepless nights(without H's help)I need stablility and won't be in te best position to prepare for a hearing for awhile after the birth).<p>Anyway, WH is all excited now with this new project and wants to begin dividing up the property ASAP. HE has a storage unit already and as soon as I'm home from the hospital he says he's going to start moving stuff out of the house.<p>Now, how tacky is that! He says he loves his children, but wants to make one a [censored]. And then while I'm incapacitated he wants to begin to take all our things. <p>Of course, now he swears up and down he was going to wait to file until after the baby was born. Yeah, right. And the only thing I can get from him regarding the baby is - call me when you're in labor.<p>Is he in another world or what?!? Definitely a world with LOTS OF FOG!!!!!!!!<p>Oh, and the kicker is that he whined about not being able to see the kids, and so he kept them Sun. pm through Mon. afternoon and the entire time he spent with OW and her kids and out kids. My oldest is putting 2 and 2 together and knows that daddy is dating OW - which daddy is trying to hide(they're just friends from work). But it galls me to think that WH is about to have a child and yet he's out frolicking (and still lying about it to everyone) with OW. I know there is worse happening out there. But this is worse for me and the kids. And WH wants me just to lie and say he's not dating and that daddy is just the most wonderful person on the face of the earth. <p>Just had to vent a little.<p>K

Aye, I got the "My health comes first, my family next, and my job last" speech not too long ago. So much for promises and good intentions. I am so sorry, and wish I could be there to help you. I think you win the prize for the night despite all my whining!<p>{{{{{{{{{{{ }}}}}}}}}}

Let me say this.... your stbx is a PIG....<p>How dare he want the divorce before the baby is born! How dare he want to come in and take things right after the baby is born. I tell you these wayward spouses are something else.
All they care about is themselves.... Fog or no fog, its NO excuse for that type of behavior!!<p>I'm sorry... but with this vd day and all... I feel the anger coming to the surface. <p>Ya know... how in the HE** do they just flaunt the OW in the kids faces.... now let me tell you this, If we were the ones who had the affair.... brought our OM to the house to spend time with our children etc... ya know what people would be saying about us.....we're WH*res !!! We wouldn't even get the excuse of the MLC or the fog... we would just be cheap sl**s....<p>Take Care of yourself.... and mostly protect yourself....<p>Blessings..
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Hi Hon-<p>I read this and am so sorry for you. Your H is being a total @$$!!!!! The idea of finalizing the divorce the day before that beautiful baby is born, there is no excuse. Talk to your lawyer about it, I mean are you legitimately ready for a divorce, division of property, visitation, support, etc.? Those things all take time, there are things to be proposed, negotiation, etc. I know that we couldn't have been ready at the temporary hearing, and that is what it is (temporary) there for, to establish guidelines to live by until the final hearing. <p>Your H is upset because he is dealing with the consequences of his actionsand because you are establishing boundaries. He is lashing out to get back at you, unfortunately in addition to you (which by the way is bad enough) he is hurting four innocent children.<p>Talk to your lawyer. Delay the hearing if need be. However, your child will never be a [censored], she is a beautiful gift from God who was conceived within a marriage and out of love. Nothing your H can do will ever change that.<p>I am here for you. Take care and please keep in touch. <p>K<p>PS- Pamper yourself for Valentine's Day. You and your baby deserve it!