Having been the one that had the A I now realise that it was only the catalyst, since my wife has mentioned that her freedom of not having to answer to me or have the need to be at home is more important to her that anything, we are currently going through a divorce (UK) her filing and I as the one asked to go some 9 months after feel agrieved as we purchased our new home in may 2001 and ploughed every penny into it, and even now my wife continues her excessive work and social comittments and allows my 2 daughters aged 14 and 9 to stay with various people admittedly some family, some other familys with big problems which terrify me, other ones are my brother in law whos father is a convicted pheadophile im not suggesting he is but it does really concern me, I cannot discuss these issues rationally with her as she thinks im just jealous of her life.How do I go about it remember I'm in the UK

Keep in touch with your lawyer/advocate. There should be some temporary measures protecting your rights to custody while the divorce is pending.<p>Your wife is in another world right now - we call it "in the fog." She is acting very selfishly and her decisions are being ruled by that selfishness.<p>Try to take the high road. Be a good example for your children. Try to be their emotional support through this and they will see that life with you is more pleasant and safe than that of your wife. Remember, girls love their fathers and they are getting to that age when they will fight with their mom - it's what teenage girls do.<p>Just support them, help them to cope with what is going on, they need someone stable in their life and protect your legal rights.<p>They can also learn that even though you may have made a bad decision, you are doing what it takes to make it right. Learning from our mistakes and making amends - or trying to make amends is a better lesson to learn than, if someone hurts me then I'll hurt them right back.<p>Keep strong. K