I know that things are going to work out somehow, but right now I just want to cry(probably because of all those pregnancy hormones).<p>I'm supposed to be induced Wed. am and have a hearing to decide money and child visitation, and my STBX has purposely and looks like successfully evaded service of the petition.<p>I hate fighting with him about the kids! I am about to be up every hour on the hour feeding and changing a new born and he wants me to discuss finances and the divorce arrangements after teh baby is born, when he has some free time.<p>The fog he is in is driving me crazy because all I get from him is that he has to work he has to work he has to work - like that is the most burdensome thing for anyone to do - how about working and raising the children without his help - or just being a single mom of three and now four because he's never around? Of course, his answer is that I'm spoiled!<p>Yes, being totally abandoned by my spouse and going through and entire pregnancy taking care of three kids all by myself while putting up with all of the emotional crap makes me pretty spoiled all right. And he is in soooooooo much pain, he tells me. It's nit the easy road leaving your wife and getting a divorce. Poor baby.<p>My problem with him nowm is that every time I see him he wants to discuss something about the kids schedules or about the money etc. No matter what the circumstances are - church, dropping them off at one of their functions, and the problem is that these issues take a real discussion because we disagree on them - and he just wants me to quickly agree to whatever he's offering, I say no and it turns into an ugly mess. I'm sick of being yelled at by him! If I ask for a meeting to discuss these issues he just says I want control instead of it just being common courtesy. <p>WH is already to just finalize our divorce in a hearing as soon as he can right after the baby is born, and I'm not going to be physically or emotionally ready for that. I can't deal with this after the baby comes. <p>I know that he doesn't care about my feelings, so what do I do? I can't do anything. He is so insensitive! Tomorrow I'm going to find out from my attorney what is really going on and if we don't have a hearing I'm going to be pi**ed off!<p>If anyone wants to say or think some really cruel things about him go ahead. I can't imagine anyone so hypocritical - going to church with his family on Sunday and then acting this way.<p>I feel like I'm dealing with Satan himself. Anyone have any good exercisms that I could perform?<p>Sorry, I just had to vent about this one. K

God is in Control,<p>Wish I could say what I really feel about your husband...what a cruel cad. Mine is made just like him.<p>I wish things were different for you. But what a blessing is coming your way. Think how much fun you will have in the next few years. I love the smell and feel of a new born baby cuddled up on my shoulder. <p>Sure there is going to be tough times...being a single parent with four kids can be overwhelming---but it will also be so rewarding. I will be thinking of you this week. Tell your lawyer that now is not a good time for any decisions...tell them to put everything off for dat least 6-8 weeks. You shouldn't have to focus on anything but your kids at this point. Please take care of yourself.

Would a voodoo doll help? My youngest suggested I get one. I'm not preggers, but I do have 4 of the guys, and I have put up with everything being about him, and him rushing the divorce through. I wish you were close to me, I would be there with you. So many people have it worse than me, but it doesn't make the hurt any less. I wish I could be there to help you. Babies are not an easy thing to do, and it's worse if you have no support...been there, done that. If you just want someone to rant at, let me know, I'll give you my email if it's not showing up...sorry, can't remember whether I clicked the block or not. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] My thoughts and prayers and best wishes are with you, and if you need anything, please let me know!