It looks like divorce is inevitable. Are there any specific steps to keep strife at a minimum. He doesn't want it, but there is nothing left, after 22yrs of marriage and nine months of counseling, I have to move on. Will God forgive me? This is very painful and confusing...

I don't know your story, can you post it?<p>Will God forgive you? YES!!!!<p>My question is why is divorce inevitable. To throw away 22 years of marriage after just 9 months of counseling doesn't seem worth it but again... I don't know the whole story. <p>I do not think people should get divorces while consumed by emotions (pain and confusion). I think you should first work through that and then if you still feel the need...get a divorce. <p>I think people..(myself included) feel as though divorce papers have some magic powers that will help you gain closure and they don't. Whether you are married or divorced you still have issues to work through. For me, I would need to get to a place where I have completely forgiven my H, am no longer consumed by anger but totally at peace with our relationship (as a divorced couple) before I would ever file again.<p>Have you tried a LONG separation so you can see what divorce will be like?