I will try to make this short as possible. My wife and I have been married for 3yrs and we have been going through problems for about 4 months. She says that I don't help here out enough and the she was the only one giving a 110% in the marriage. Mostly we have been arguing about different things, mainly stupid stuff. She went home to Washington last November, when she returned she said that the only reason that she came back was to tell me that she was leaving me. Well she ended up staying and I tried to correct the things that bother her about me. Well I didn't feel that she was trying herself. She wouldn't read any of the marriage books and she didn't want to go to counseling at the church. Anyways, she moved to Washington 6 days ago. She bought a round trip ticket returning at the end of April. She will be gone for 2 months, that is if she comes back. She said that she needed to get away for a while to get her head screwed on straight and to figure out what she wants. She said that she wanted to have space to think about us. I am confused because I don't know why she had to go to Washington for space. Her whole family lives there so maybe she's just home sick. We have been in Texas for only a year. What should I do. Everyone is telling me that I shouldn't call her that I should wait until she calls and not to talk about us unless she brings it up. Is there hope, I'm just confused. I believe that marriage is for life and that you don't just run out and get a divorce just cause your not happy right then. Marriage is more then Love. It is a commitment. A promise. Well I haven't called her but she has called here about 3 times. She called once to wish me a happy birthday. Well again I am confused and I'm trying to understand but I don't. Any advice?

I'm separated only two months also, and the relief I feel is immense. My H refuses to do marriage builders, but if your wife is willing, have you taken the tests on the website. You can each work on them individually and talk about the results. That way you can work on the marriage while you're physically separated. If she is willing. Good Luck.

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Chris S.<p>I see that you are new here to MB. Welcome!!!<p>I would highly recommend that you read everything on this site so that you can fully understand what you need to be doing for yourself and your marriage right now!<p>I also would suggest that you post on the General Question forum here at this site. You will probably get a few more responses. This is the Divorce/Divorced board and I really don't get that that is what you are wanting to do at this time.<p> I m ust go have to get a kid somewhere yet!!!<p>Take Care,<p>Dawn