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All. I'm not sure if you've seen my last posting about my StepDaughter issue. I appreciate all the responses to that. For those who have seen that posting - please help me with another issue.<p>Again, my W and I are in the process of reconciling after a 1 month separation. However, things between us doesn't seem to get any closer. She's hesitant to hold my hand, sit next to me, kiss me, etc. I can't help but think that she is having an affair. <p>What are some signs to look for? Or am I just being impatient and expecting too much too fast?<p>FYI... I've never cheated nor did anything behind my W's back.
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I'm surprised no one has responded here yet.<p>Here are a few things my xw did that raised all kinds of red flags:<p> - Began working out after years of neglecting her appearance
- Began criticising things she had previously praised
- Sudden interest in sports
- Staying up late - sometimes all night - on the computer
- Sudden need for privacy and "space", with all kinds of secrecy going on
- Made excuses to leave the house in the evenings
- Picked fights with me over the silliest things to make me the "bad guy"
- Denies everything to this day, though she's moving 1,000 miles to be with him in less than 2 weeks
<p>There was a great thread in GQ II a while ago on this very topic. I'll go search and if I find it I'll post a link.<p>[ February 27, 2002: Message edited by: o2bsane ]</p>
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Found it. Try this.<p>[ February 27, 2002: Message edited by: o2bsane ]</p>
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My x did the stay up late thing too. SHe worked afternoon shift and would get home around 11-11:30. I sometimes would wait up for her. She then started telling me not to wait up for her, she needed time to unwind.<p>I later noticed she had started drinking as I would find empty small bottles of wine or a new bottle opened. <p>I also noted she stopped getting up for the kids in the morning. She would get up as they were going out the door for school.<p>After discovery, I found out why she was staying up late. The om worked at the same place on worked on an overlapping shift and she was calling him at work late at night.<p>Part of the behavior was from the MLC I beleive she suffered as these activities started about six months before. Also sex between us went from bad, once a month to worse, once every six weeks.
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Phone cards. The kind you pre pay minutes on. To this day seeing them in the store upsets me.<p>Elizabeth
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Thank you ALL for your replies.
Although my W shows some of those signs, I don't want to be "quick to jump" into any conclusions. It seems as though, however you look at it, no one knows the truth but the spouse. And I don't want to go to the extent of playing any games. I'm only 25 - but already feel too old for these games!
Where are all the "mature" people at nowadays? Everyone seems to be childish now. It seems as if people are caught up in these "movie" and "tv show" type lifestyles. Whatever happen to reality?
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