I am new here, a good friend told me about this site and that I would find a lot of support here.
So I thought I would come check it out. <p>I just found out a few weeks ago that my husband of 17 years wants a seperation and eventually a divorce. I am devestated and don't know what all to do or who to talk to.<p>Angelneedinghugs

Find a friend to give you a hug. I actually had a stranger hug me because he saw how upset I was. I'm now crying for the five years of neglect I've allowed. I don't like wearing my emotions so openly, but need to get it out and learn about my self. Off to see my counselor now. Get one if you don't already have one. It's for you, noone else.

Angel...I am also pretty new here. My husband of 11 years (but together 15 yrs) has left me for another woman. I feel your pain. Please just know and remember this board is full of compassionate people who actually care. Everyone here has helped me out so very much. What I have done is: gone on meds, started counseling,cried, vented, started a journal, listened to people-friends- & family. I think I have finally accepted the fact that he does not love me and that I have got to go on, but that does not take away my lonely, scared - how can I raise 4 boys alone questions. But I realize now that with every day I survive I become a different person who is stronger and who will eventually come around to be a better person. Please feel free to email me at anytime. cgarcia@mahoneygroup.com Cindy

Buy the Divorce Recovery book by Michelle Weiner-Davis.<p>Start participating in this website
http://www.divorcebusting.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi

((((Angel))))<p>Welcome, this is a terrible site to have to be at but it's also one of the best places you can be right now. Sad to say that I'm not new here and I'm probably about to reach senior status. <p>There are a lot of people here who have been through just about any situation you can imagine and will help guide you down the path. Do you have any children? What caused the separation?<p>Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers

Welcome, make yourself at home.<p>Bill,
Don't worry about your senior status. I got you beat by almost a whole year! I guess it sucks to be me! Hanging around here just makes us smarter not older.<p>Elizabeth

Thanks to all that replied to my posted message. My seperation is because my husband says he no longer loves me and he has found someone else. Guess who that someone else is....you probably guessed it my best friend.
He has told me that he won't stand for my outburst because he thinks they are tempertantrums and won't stand for them.
I do have a counselor and she is helping some and I am on meds and that is helping a lot more than I thought it would. I do have a few good friends that I have been chating with unfortunately all of them are all out of state so I can't have the hugs that they send me through the internet. I do have a wonderful mother in law that knows everything well almost everything and she is supporting me and encouraging and advicing me on what to do and how to handle some of my feelings and such. She isn't pleased at all with her son.
If anyone would like to e-mail me you can reach me at Javaroses2001@yahoo.com
I would like to meet new people and know that I am not the only one that is going through this.
Thanks again for the posts and I appreciate the advice.
HUGS
Angelneedinghugs

Hi...<p>I'm sorry that you're here... what you are going through is truly heartbreaking.<p>However, I'm glad you're here... you will find alot of wonderful people who know how you feel and will give you great suppport.<p>Please go to the divorcing busting site... also get the book Love must be tough by James Dobson.<p>Go and look for a support group in your area...Call your local mental health center... even call a crisis hotline.... they will have numbers for you. You will find people there who can help you through this time. Keep writing and calling your friends... boy, I don't know what I would have done without them.<p>WE ALL know how you are feeling.... we've been/are where you are.<p>One other thing... you have to stop...begging, crying and all...... I did those things and all it does is drive the WS farther away. Once you read the books and visit the other websites, you'll see what I mean.....<p>God Bless you
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Hey Angelneedinghugs,<p>This is your good friend Alohanui2000 [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
I am so glad that you came to this site. It is a great place to get support and maybe just vent some. It is always good to know that there are others going through hard times too. It is a great place to make friends and get advice too. I can't say enough good things about this site and the people that are in here.
Big HUGGGGGGGs
ANNE2000
Alohanui2000

Thank you Anne200 for telling me about this board. I think it will help me.
I would like to put my story out there for all to help advice me but I am partly afraid of H or my BF finding it and being really mad at me, but I need to talk about how I feel about what is going on with me. I have been told that one of the best ways to get over something is to talk about it and listen to others advice, you don't nessecarily have to agree with it or take it but you can listen and use what would help you in your situation.